Is not having a ring a sign of marriage fraud?How about elopement?
Age differences? What exactly sets the light bulb off to the USCIS that a marriage is fake? I have a real marriage in my eyes but don't want to create any signs that may be misinterpreted at the interview.
KandiceWhat does US immigration see as signs of marriage fraud?
Immigration is looking for everyday things you would expect from a married couple, and that is NOT easy to fake... things that come naturally when you live your lives together. As long as you are really married you shoudn't have a problem. Not having a wedding ring may look a little fishy, unless it is a cultural things. Many people elope, and many couple have age difference, my parents are 10 years apart and have been happily married for 30 + years. But there are things a true couple knows about each other. For example, if they ask each of you which side of the bed you sleep on and you both say the right, well that's not really possible. I have heard of them checking your key chains to see that you both have the same house key. They may ask things like what day is the trash picked up at your house, do you have cable, who it the provider, what time do you each leave for work etc... just little things that people who live together automatically know about each other. If you are worried that certain things about your relationship may 'set off the light bulb' then be prepared with an answer when they ask you about it. Why did you elope? Money, family problems, you are spontaneous????? only you know the answers! As long as you are in a real marriage they will be able to tell :) Just relax, the interview is really pretty simple once you go through it..... mine only last about 15 mins and was VERY simple.What does US immigration see as signs of marriage fraud?
Only certain cultures use rings as a sign of marriage (mostly western cultures). Not having a ring does not mean you you do not have a marriage. My wife did not want a wedding ring as she considered it a waste of money (she later changed her mind but wanted silver as they are less expensive) and in her culture it was not required.
';Lack of a ring is seriously suspicious -- it is such a deeply held tradition that lack of a ring makes anyone suspicious!'; NOT TRUE! In most Eastern cultures a ring is something new and is only an option!
My wife and I had no ring (as stated above). We are 10 years apart in age. We got married just before OPT was up and she had to leave the country. We have been married 26 years now so ...
How people interact, and knowing things about the other person. My wife sleeps on my right, her toothbrush is yellow (mine is blue), things like that you should know. Also meeting the family is something they might look at but it's not a deal breaker. Although they may want to know why.
Good Luck!
The most important signs are in the ways the two people interact, their shared interests, how they treat each other, how well they know each other. Do you treat each other with respect and caring? Do you share common interests and activities, e.g. both like to ski or opera fans or...? Do you work effectively together to build your home and relationship? Have similar aims in life and goals for your future together?
Plenty of other things can trigger a fraud investigation or make officials suspicious. Someone out-of-status or upcoming visa expiration might be in a rush to hook a spouse just to try to stay -- a hasty marriage in light of immigration situations is definitely suspicious. Meeting online or in chat rooms or through ';Cherry Blossoms'; is definitely suspicious since con artists prey on people through these media. Lack of a ring is seriously suspicious -- it is such a deeply held tradition that lack of a ring makes anyone suspicious!
If your marriage is real, your love for each other genuine, outward stuff doesn't matter anywhere near as much as the way you treat each other.
I'm sure when you go to the interview, they have cameras in the waiting area to observe the way you treat each other. Body language says alot, especially if you are touching each other or holding his hand. I think you should keep in mind that they are watching you before you even see them.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
My marriage got fixed for that i want some tips for glowing skin.?
1.My skain type is oily.
2.My compextion is brown.My marriage got fixed for that i want some tips for glowing skin.?
Oily skin is better than dry skin and brown complexion is not really a problem but a blessing. There had been white and black colored skin who wanted to have brown complexion by trying to sunbath or use whitening soaps. Glowing skin is not just a matter of how your skin looks like but the way you project yourself meeting people in any race, sex or age reasons. Your self acceptance is the most important thing for you to glow. Oily skins can be treated or prevented by proper hygiene. You can do it by regular washing of your face and also a hot and cold shower after a strenuous activity where delicate parts of your body were affected. Sweating is normal for everybody. If you don't sweat, you need to take your exercise to keep you better in shape and of course sustain a glowing skin.My marriage got fixed for that i want some tips for glowing skin.?
* Glowing skin
1. Boil cabbage and wash face with that water.
2. Mixture of banana and milk and wash after drying with cold water.
3. Paste of walnut powder ,honey and lemon juice.Scrub your face with this mixture.
4. Powdered mango peel and 1 teaspoon of milk powder rub on face ,neck and hands.
5. While bathing lather your body with a soft soap and apply mixture of sugar and lime on the lather and see the difference.
6. Use gram flour and milk to make a paste. Apply it gently and rub a little, then wash off with water. Believe me, it's much better that any soap!
7. Mix sandal wood powder with rose water and add 4-5 drops of milk in it, then apply on face and body. After 10 minutes, take a warm bath.
8. Prepare a mask by mixing a slice of pumpkin with egg yolk and milk. Let this mask set on your face for 30 minutes for a glowing skin.
* A natural moisturiser for all skin types is take a fresh aloe-vera gel from the leaf add fresh cucumber juice and two drops of lemon.
This site has natural tips to have a glowing skin and also natural remedies for oily skin ,check out http://healthbeautytips.net/oilyskin.htm
2.My compextion is brown.My marriage got fixed for that i want some tips for glowing skin.?
Oily skin is better than dry skin and brown complexion is not really a problem but a blessing. There had been white and black colored skin who wanted to have brown complexion by trying to sunbath or use whitening soaps. Glowing skin is not just a matter of how your skin looks like but the way you project yourself meeting people in any race, sex or age reasons. Your self acceptance is the most important thing for you to glow. Oily skins can be treated or prevented by proper hygiene. You can do it by regular washing of your face and also a hot and cold shower after a strenuous activity where delicate parts of your body were affected. Sweating is normal for everybody. If you don't sweat, you need to take your exercise to keep you better in shape and of course sustain a glowing skin.My marriage got fixed for that i want some tips for glowing skin.?
* Glowing skin
1. Boil cabbage and wash face with that water.
2. Mixture of banana and milk and wash after drying with cold water.
3. Paste of walnut powder ,honey and lemon juice.Scrub your face with this mixture.
4. Powdered mango peel and 1 teaspoon of milk powder rub on face ,neck and hands.
5. While bathing lather your body with a soft soap and apply mixture of sugar and lime on the lather and see the difference.
6. Use gram flour and milk to make a paste. Apply it gently and rub a little, then wash off with water. Believe me, it's much better that any soap!
7. Mix sandal wood powder with rose water and add 4-5 drops of milk in it, then apply on face and body. After 10 minutes, take a warm bath.
8. Prepare a mask by mixing a slice of pumpkin with egg yolk and milk. Let this mask set on your face for 30 minutes for a glowing skin.
* A natural moisturiser for all skin types is take a fresh aloe-vera gel from the leaf add fresh cucumber juice and two drops of lemon.
This site has natural tips to have a glowing skin and also natural remedies for oily skin ,check out http://healthbeautytips.net/oilyskin.htm
Is there a way to have a happy marriage if my wife is bi polar?
my wife is bi polar and we been married 2yrs , i don't know what to do to keep her happy all the times. there is always something wrong and am always trying to make her happy.Is there a way to have a happy marriage if my wife is bi polar?
You cant ';make'; someone that is bipolar happy. It has nothing to do with you, so don't take it upon yourself to be her cure, you will drive yourself crazy. The best thing to do is make sure she is going to her doctor and is properly medicated to cut down on the mood swings. Also remember not to take things personally, be supportive of her, this includes her illness.Is there a way to have a happy marriage if my wife is bi polar?
I suppose if the proper treatment plan is figured out and it's not always so easy to get the right combination of meds. My late husband was severe bi polar and VERY difficult to deal with on a daily basis. He refused to take his meds as directed %26amp; frequently would not see his therapist. He eventually commit suicide with his prescription meds.
Mary in Camden, MI
living with bi polar can be extremely hard at time..making sure she is on her mediation and doing therapy..support group..connecting with professionals
get her on some meds to regulate her mood(s).
You cant ';make'; someone that is bipolar happy. It has nothing to do with you, so don't take it upon yourself to be her cure, you will drive yourself crazy. The best thing to do is make sure she is going to her doctor and is properly medicated to cut down on the mood swings. Also remember not to take things personally, be supportive of her, this includes her illness.Is there a way to have a happy marriage if my wife is bi polar?
I suppose if the proper treatment plan is figured out and it's not always so easy to get the right combination of meds. My late husband was severe bi polar and VERY difficult to deal with on a daily basis. He refused to take his meds as directed %26amp; frequently would not see his therapist. He eventually commit suicide with his prescription meds.
Mary in Camden, MI
living with bi polar can be extremely hard at time..making sure she is on her mediation and doing therapy..support group..connecting with professionals
get her on some meds to regulate her mood(s).
Wheres the best place to have a Gay Marriage for a German and Filipino Gay Couple?
I am Filipino, my German BF wanted to marry me. Gay marriage in Germany is allowed by the law, though a foreigner marrying a German National is very chaotic and long process. On the other hand Gay marriage is not allowed in the Philippines. Where else should we go to expedite our Gay Marriage with no mess, and that the German government would acknowledge our union....Please Help....Wheres the best place to have a Gay Marriage for a German and Filipino Gay Couple?
Lucky I'm filipino and I always wanted to hook up with a german.
sorry I don't have a real answer to this but i thought I would just sayWheres the best place to have a Gay Marriage for a German and Filipino Gay Couple?
Actually, in Makati, Philippines there's a church called MCCPh (Metropolitan Community Church). That church is a member of MCC California and the Holy Union can be registered in the country who has a SAME SEX MARRIAGE... here's the site and contact them... mccph@wordpress.com
Goodluck!!
I think it will depend on where you want to live after the marriage.
Your partner (German) has an automatic right to move and reside throughout Europe so he could take you to the UK to get married (Civil Partnership) though it does get complicated if you both wish to reside in a European country. If you go back to the Philippines your marriage will not necessarily be recognised by the authorities there but you could still live together. I believe that as your partner is European he could,if you wanted to live in the UK but you would be required to get a Schengen visa before you get your partnership and there might be other complications (though you do have the right to work here if it's granted) it costs about 拢515.00 ($770.00) They don't make it easy - do they?
Germany seems to be the best bet so long as you can wait a while before you have your gay marriage.
Lucky I'm filipino and I always wanted to hook up with a german.
sorry I don't have a real answer to this but i thought I would just sayWheres the best place to have a Gay Marriage for a German and Filipino Gay Couple?
Actually, in Makati, Philippines there's a church called MCCPh (Metropolitan Community Church). That church is a member of MCC California and the Holy Union can be registered in the country who has a SAME SEX MARRIAGE... here's the site and contact them... mccph@wordpress.com
Goodluck!!
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I think it will depend on where you want to live after the marriage.
Your partner (German) has an automatic right to move and reside throughout Europe so he could take you to the UK to get married (Civil Partnership) though it does get complicated if you both wish to reside in a European country. If you go back to the Philippines your marriage will not necessarily be recognised by the authorities there but you could still live together. I believe that as your partner is European he could,if you wanted to live in the UK but you would be required to get a Schengen visa before you get your partnership and there might be other complications (though you do have the right to work here if it's granted) it costs about 拢515.00 ($770.00) They don't make it easy - do they?
Germany seems to be the best bet so long as you can wait a while before you have your gay marriage.
What wesite can I visit to find FREE, marriage and divorce records?
Where can I look online to find marriage and divorce records for Bexar county or San Antonio, Texas? FreeWhat wesite can I visit to find FREE, marriage and divorce records?
For marriage licences, first, make sure your pop ups are enabled then go to the Bexar County Clerk's website: http://www.countyclerk.bexar.landata.com鈥?/a> Register for free on the website, then log in. Once logged in you can search marriage licenses by name or date. You will be able to view the actual license.
For divorces go to the district court's website: http://www.co.bexar.tx.us/webapps/html/d鈥?/a>
You don't have to register, just search by name, however, it does not give you much information other than the names involved, date %26amp; case #.What wesite can I visit to find FREE, marriage and divorce records?
Most counties in the USA have their marriage license records available through their websites. I don't think divorce records are public records.eye color
For marriage licences, first, make sure your pop ups are enabled then go to the Bexar County Clerk's website: http://www.countyclerk.bexar.landata.com鈥?/a> Register for free on the website, then log in. Once logged in you can search marriage licenses by name or date. You will be able to view the actual license.
For divorces go to the district court's website: http://www.co.bexar.tx.us/webapps/html/d鈥?/a>
You don't have to register, just search by name, however, it does not give you much information other than the names involved, date %26amp; case #.What wesite can I visit to find FREE, marriage and divorce records?
Most counties in the USA have their marriage license records available through their websites. I don't think divorce records are public records.
Do republicans think it is wrong for the federal gov. to define the role of marriage as being between a man?
and a woman? What about the federal governments laws concerning marijuana, rape, slavery, etc; should the federal government just make no laws at all?Do republicans think it is wrong for the federal gov. to define the role of marriage as being between a man?
Considering that ';Republicans'; have helped to grow this massive government, the answer would be no.
CONSERVATIVES think that government should be as small as possible. Conservatives think that the people of the states should determine the laws that affect them, with few laws belonging to the feds.Do republicans think it is wrong for the federal gov. to define the role of marriage as being between a man?
Yes. That is an issue that should be left to the states. Same with marijuana and rape laws. Your inclusion of slavery and about not making any laws at all does not show a very high level of intellectual honesty. The federal government does not need to be involved in all levels of governance. Some laws apply to all the states, to all citizens, for example voting age, suffrage, citizenship, abolition of slavery, etc. Other laws are unique for the separate states to legislate for or against.
No. Republicans have historically been for one man and one woman in marriage. And why shouldn't they? That's how it has most commonly been throughout all of recorded history. Your question makes little sense to me because of your wording of it. The second part looks like a big jumble to me.
Abolition of slavery should be an amendment. You cant say all men are created equal and then have slaves.
As for everything else, it should be up to the states like the 10th amendment says.
The U.S. Constitution spells out the proper role for the federal government. I recommend that you read it.
i guess you think its OK if i want to marry a telephone pole?
Considering that ';Republicans'; have helped to grow this massive government, the answer would be no.
CONSERVATIVES think that government should be as small as possible. Conservatives think that the people of the states should determine the laws that affect them, with few laws belonging to the feds.Do republicans think it is wrong for the federal gov. to define the role of marriage as being between a man?
Yes. That is an issue that should be left to the states. Same with marijuana and rape laws. Your inclusion of slavery and about not making any laws at all does not show a very high level of intellectual honesty. The federal government does not need to be involved in all levels of governance. Some laws apply to all the states, to all citizens, for example voting age, suffrage, citizenship, abolition of slavery, etc. Other laws are unique for the separate states to legislate for or against.
No. Republicans have historically been for one man and one woman in marriage. And why shouldn't they? That's how it has most commonly been throughout all of recorded history. Your question makes little sense to me because of your wording of it. The second part looks like a big jumble to me.
Abolition of slavery should be an amendment. You cant say all men are created equal and then have slaves.
As for everything else, it should be up to the states like the 10th amendment says.
The U.S. Constitution spells out the proper role for the federal government. I recommend that you read it.
i guess you think its OK if i want to marry a telephone pole?
My husband left me after 22 years of marriage is living with someone else trying to get ideas of how I can get?
him to talk to me he is 1000 miles away will not accept phone calls e-mails or letters. He has already filed for a divorce hasen't talked to me for over 6 months need ideas? Only people respond who are mature and have mature answers not the same people who keep giving bad advice just to get points and not even answering the question.My husband left me after 22 years of marriage is living with someone else trying to get ideas of how I can get?
I know you dont want to hear this but, you need to move on. He hasnt talked to you in 6 months and is most likley involved with someone else. He has moved on. The marriage is over. You need to let go and focus on healing.My husband left me after 22 years of marriage is living with someone else trying to get ideas of how I can get?
First you have to give more details. Why did he leave you? Second: why do you want to talk to him? Leaving after 22 years and filing for divorce and going far away without communication means your husband had a very strong reason to go. It seems he was totally fed up with his life and his marriage. So unless you give us more details we cannot really give good advice, other than try third party communication, through a good friend or family member of your husband.
Unfortunately, I know exactly what you want us to say. You want us to say that he still loves you and cares for you and that eventually you will get back together. You want him to admit to you that he was wrong and to please take him back. Sorry to be so blunt but right now that is not going to happen. They say time heals all wounds, so maybe over time you can have a relationship, but for right now you have to heal. You have to mend yourself and come to the realization that you are a women and that he does not complete you. You know that deep down inside you DO deserve better than what he is doing to you right now. Just think if he really loved you would he put you through all this pain right now? Is that true love? I am living through it also, and it is the hardest thing that I am dealing with right now. We have to remain strong and powerful, so if we do get back with our husbands we are stronger then when we were with them before. Stay strong!!!!
well like the one person said a few more details would be nice.. do you know why he left you? did you do something that hurt him so bad he does not even want to talk to you? is he just a jerk that does not deserve you but yet you still want him? If it has been 6 months you should stop trying to contact him.. clearly he does not want to talk to you.. if he has filed already he will (or his lawyer will) at some point have to talk to you (or your lawyer). At this point what do you want to talk to him about? he has ignored you for 6 months.. the only thing you should want to talk to him about is the quickest way to get him out of your life as your husband so you can move on and find happiness with yourself or with someone else. BUT if you really really still want to talk to him.. clearly if you are sending letters you must have his address.. my only suggestion is if you are dead set on talking to him just show up.. not much he can do to hide then...
First off pick yourself up off the floor and Try and get your confidence back!!! Right now! Do not waste any more emotions on this man. Who cares who this women is and what she looks like. It will only make you more angry. You have to let it go,......you are killing yourself by letting this consume your every thought. It is over for whatever reason, who did what and who said what does not matter.
If you don't let it go this will effect your entire life making you miserable and he will have that power over you. He isn't worth it. Pick yourself up and tell yourself everyday it is over and I will be ok. Screw him! Keep busy. Focus on you. Exercise, get a hobby, join a dating site. Meet new people. You have to put him behind you. Don't give him the satisfaction of you being miserable.
I think that I gave you great advice the first time. If you were married for 22 years, then he still thinks of you and probably will for the rest of his life. How can he not? If you are calling, and emailing him a lot then you are giving him attention. As long as he has your attention, then that is enough for him.
You should TRY to not call him, and email him. Once he sees that you have backed up a little. Then he most likely will call you, or email you
Will you please answer my question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
I am sorry for you, but you have to go on with your life.He obviously doesn't want to communicate with you. Try to cheer up yourself with something to do(whatever you like to do that makes you happy). Time heals everybody.Try not to think about him and your ex-marriage with him- It's gone.I am sure that in time you will meet some decent man.All depends on you (how you feel, how you look and etc.)Best of luck to you.
Men are amazing and can be pretty cold hearted. Move on, MOST of us don't get the reasons why someone left. #1 reason is weight gain. Men do NOT like it when we let ourselves go. Second is keeping a dirty house. Move on hon, you had your life together, stop harraseing him you had your chance. Theres someone else for you. Be happy. And start again. You can do it.
If he won't talk to you and has filed you may need to accept that you cannot get to him anymore.
Have your lawyer contact his if it is about the divorce, but short of that, you can't force him to speak to you. I'm sorry.
It's going to be difficult to try to get him talk to you again if you are really determine to get him talk to you again you could try this ebook. This ebook save my friends marriage hopefully it can save yours here is the link http://17ec19bctbnsav81m5vltncs1v.hop.clickbank.net/ good luck!
What do you want to talk to him about. If he doesn't worry about you then don't you worry about him. It helps you more to let him go than to hurt over him.
I think you may want to stop trying contact him if he wont talk to you and hasn't for 6 months. You should just try your best to move on with your life.
We don't know what you want? You simply as ';ideas of how I can get';. Get what? In touch with him? Get even?
from your questions this came suddenly and has been a huge shock to your system. you dare not accept that he is gone for good even though you know he is. honey i feel for you. after 6 months you are used to the reality that he is not around, and you have survived so far. this is super good news.
do you work? one thing you can do is pour yourself into your job and use it to give you purpose and satisfaction. if you possibly can, give of your time, volunteer at a church or other organization. really.
after 22 years it sounds like you dont even have a bank account to divide, how can that be? how do you get by? do you have a good job? friends in your town?
whatever you have, use it now to take care of yourself. really. trust that by taking care of yourself you are doing exactly the right thing. everyone has been dumped or left at some time in their life. you can survive this. and do better for yourself. because there is a sweetness and kindness and tone to your questions that touches me. and i am sure it touches others.
if you need to ask questions here every single day, hon, you do it until you feel better. may i give you some suggestions for some other questions to ask here?
'; how can i survive my husband leaving me and go on and feel better?';
'; how can i put my heartbreak aside and do well at my work?';
'; how can i gather strength and purpose to myself after being suddenly left by my husband of 22 years?';
'; how can i take care of myself now that my husband has left me?';
'; how can i meet others and interact with others in a way that helps me feel less lonely since my husband left me?';
'; how can i be my best at this time in my life to attract good people into my life who can inspire and be good friends to me?';
you, dear heart, are more than just your husbands wife. you are a worthy person in your own right. you have a place and a right to be here just like he does. you have the right to a happy future. it only seems bad now. it wont be for long. taking small steps to take care of yourself will go far to make you feel better.
i was dumped by a fiance once years ago. i was crushed. but once i found my own footing again, and it took a while, i went back out in the world and eventually i found greater, much greater happiness. i learned my lesson about what made the guy dump me, admitted my part in our troubles, accepted blame, and resolved to live the best life i could every day from then on, and did not repeat my mistakes again, and am the better for it. you will be too.
be kind to yourself. be gentle and be easy on yourself. it will all be ok. trust me
I know you dont want to hear this but, you need to move on. He hasnt talked to you in 6 months and is most likley involved with someone else. He has moved on. The marriage is over. You need to let go and focus on healing.My husband left me after 22 years of marriage is living with someone else trying to get ideas of how I can get?
First you have to give more details. Why did he leave you? Second: why do you want to talk to him? Leaving after 22 years and filing for divorce and going far away without communication means your husband had a very strong reason to go. It seems he was totally fed up with his life and his marriage. So unless you give us more details we cannot really give good advice, other than try third party communication, through a good friend or family member of your husband.
Unfortunately, I know exactly what you want us to say. You want us to say that he still loves you and cares for you and that eventually you will get back together. You want him to admit to you that he was wrong and to please take him back. Sorry to be so blunt but right now that is not going to happen. They say time heals all wounds, so maybe over time you can have a relationship, but for right now you have to heal. You have to mend yourself and come to the realization that you are a women and that he does not complete you. You know that deep down inside you DO deserve better than what he is doing to you right now. Just think if he really loved you would he put you through all this pain right now? Is that true love? I am living through it also, and it is the hardest thing that I am dealing with right now. We have to remain strong and powerful, so if we do get back with our husbands we are stronger then when we were with them before. Stay strong!!!!
well like the one person said a few more details would be nice.. do you know why he left you? did you do something that hurt him so bad he does not even want to talk to you? is he just a jerk that does not deserve you but yet you still want him? If it has been 6 months you should stop trying to contact him.. clearly he does not want to talk to you.. if he has filed already he will (or his lawyer will) at some point have to talk to you (or your lawyer). At this point what do you want to talk to him about? he has ignored you for 6 months.. the only thing you should want to talk to him about is the quickest way to get him out of your life as your husband so you can move on and find happiness with yourself or with someone else. BUT if you really really still want to talk to him.. clearly if you are sending letters you must have his address.. my only suggestion is if you are dead set on talking to him just show up.. not much he can do to hide then...
First off pick yourself up off the floor and Try and get your confidence back!!! Right now! Do not waste any more emotions on this man. Who cares who this women is and what she looks like. It will only make you more angry. You have to let it go,......you are killing yourself by letting this consume your every thought. It is over for whatever reason, who did what and who said what does not matter.
If you don't let it go this will effect your entire life making you miserable and he will have that power over you. He isn't worth it. Pick yourself up and tell yourself everyday it is over and I will be ok. Screw him! Keep busy. Focus on you. Exercise, get a hobby, join a dating site. Meet new people. You have to put him behind you. Don't give him the satisfaction of you being miserable.
I think that I gave you great advice the first time. If you were married for 22 years, then he still thinks of you and probably will for the rest of his life. How can he not? If you are calling, and emailing him a lot then you are giving him attention. As long as he has your attention, then that is enough for him.
You should TRY to not call him, and email him. Once he sees that you have backed up a little. Then he most likely will call you, or email you
Will you please answer my question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
I am sorry for you, but you have to go on with your life.He obviously doesn't want to communicate with you. Try to cheer up yourself with something to do(whatever you like to do that makes you happy). Time heals everybody.Try not to think about him and your ex-marriage with him- It's gone.I am sure that in time you will meet some decent man.All depends on you (how you feel, how you look and etc.)Best of luck to you.
Men are amazing and can be pretty cold hearted. Move on, MOST of us don't get the reasons why someone left. #1 reason is weight gain. Men do NOT like it when we let ourselves go. Second is keeping a dirty house. Move on hon, you had your life together, stop harraseing him you had your chance. Theres someone else for you. Be happy. And start again. You can do it.
If he won't talk to you and has filed you may need to accept that you cannot get to him anymore.
Have your lawyer contact his if it is about the divorce, but short of that, you can't force him to speak to you. I'm sorry.
It's going to be difficult to try to get him talk to you again if you are really determine to get him talk to you again you could try this ebook. This ebook save my friends marriage hopefully it can save yours here is the link http://17ec19bctbnsav81m5vltncs1v.hop.clickbank.net/ good luck!
What do you want to talk to him about. If he doesn't worry about you then don't you worry about him. It helps you more to let him go than to hurt over him.
I think you may want to stop trying contact him if he wont talk to you and hasn't for 6 months. You should just try your best to move on with your life.
We don't know what you want? You simply as ';ideas of how I can get';. Get what? In touch with him? Get even?
from your questions this came suddenly and has been a huge shock to your system. you dare not accept that he is gone for good even though you know he is. honey i feel for you. after 6 months you are used to the reality that he is not around, and you have survived so far. this is super good news.
do you work? one thing you can do is pour yourself into your job and use it to give you purpose and satisfaction. if you possibly can, give of your time, volunteer at a church or other organization. really.
after 22 years it sounds like you dont even have a bank account to divide, how can that be? how do you get by? do you have a good job? friends in your town?
whatever you have, use it now to take care of yourself. really. trust that by taking care of yourself you are doing exactly the right thing. everyone has been dumped or left at some time in their life. you can survive this. and do better for yourself. because there is a sweetness and kindness and tone to your questions that touches me. and i am sure it touches others.
if you need to ask questions here every single day, hon, you do it until you feel better. may i give you some suggestions for some other questions to ask here?
'; how can i survive my husband leaving me and go on and feel better?';
'; how can i put my heartbreak aside and do well at my work?';
'; how can i gather strength and purpose to myself after being suddenly left by my husband of 22 years?';
'; how can i take care of myself now that my husband has left me?';
'; how can i meet others and interact with others in a way that helps me feel less lonely since my husband left me?';
'; how can i be my best at this time in my life to attract good people into my life who can inspire and be good friends to me?';
you, dear heart, are more than just your husbands wife. you are a worthy person in your own right. you have a place and a right to be here just like he does. you have the right to a happy future. it only seems bad now. it wont be for long. taking small steps to take care of yourself will go far to make you feel better.
i was dumped by a fiance once years ago. i was crushed. but once i found my own footing again, and it took a while, i went back out in the world and eventually i found greater, much greater happiness. i learned my lesson about what made the guy dump me, admitted my part in our troubles, accepted blame, and resolved to live the best life i could every day from then on, and did not repeat my mistakes again, and am the better for it. you will be too.
be kind to yourself. be gentle and be easy on yourself. it will all be ok. trust me
Is marriage a legalized form of prostitution?
in both cases you pay for sex... however, a prostitute its cheaper, you get what you want and she leaves and you do dont have to see her until next time you don't have to pay for it every day with the nagging and bullshit you go through with a marriage and no lawyer fees to have her leave... also a prostitute at least works.. a wife stay all day long watching tv and eating and stealing your paycheck which you earned by working very hard.Is marriage a legalized form of prostitution?
A prostitute doesn't just take one man's money and have sex, she takes multiple. Also, she might be cheaper in the beginning but after you get some STDs the doctor bill might be a little high.Is marriage a legalized form of prostitution?
You have a very limited view of marriage, my friend. No where does it say that the wife must stay home all day. No where does it say that the husband pays for everything. You can set the terms of your own marriage. I've known couples who have both worked, both had their own bank accounts, with no shared accounts, and had a prenuptial agreement in place to keep things separate should they split up. I've known people in ';traditional'; marriages that worked just as well together. You can define your own relationship. And with your definition, you can remove the idea of paying for sex.
I like the way men sometimes don't think. Maybe you should walk around your wife one day if you have one. She may be a slob and an alcoholic. Most aren't. My wife can do three or four things at once and she does that all day long until she sits down and we watch an hour or two of television together.
I can well imagine what she would say after laundry. How about a stack of dishes created after a very good meal? What do you think she have to tell a labor relations board if she sued for a salery which she could say you never paid? If you have a wife and she's good to you in any way (and that includes the subject of this discussion), count your blessings.
Well depends on what type of girls ur going for. I mean if you get a girl that goes to college she will be making her own money and not have to depends on sum a-whole like urself. would u like it if ur daughter became a prostitute?...i hope not. A woman does a lot and sacrifices her body to bring something so beautiful to our lives, and that being our children. Have fun wit ur prostitutes and the STD's they give u as well. I heard Gonorrhea's a very good friend.
No intelligent woman would marry you or have sex with you.
We'd just steal your TV, eat all your food and spend your whole paycheck for fun.
If we had a free minute, we might even kick you in the balls for added pleasure. :)
It's quite funny your question I must say, but please you are stereotyping i go to work as well as my husband, and he's the one in my earhole all the time moaning at me!
You need to find happiness because you sound quite bitter
Most women these days work and most families are dual income. A marriage is a partnership - not a form of prostitution.
so, for you, marriage is only about getting laid?
sounds like you had it rough
I'm not sure whether you are asking a question or stating an opinion. But there are several flaws with your thesis. Technically, no money is exchanged in a marriage. Yes, it is true that many couples share property and in some cases, the male partner makes more money than the female and, thus, she benefits from the arrangement. This is not always the case. In fact, it is becoming increasingly less common for the wife to make less than the husband. In addition, even in egalitarian relationships, women also typically bear the bulk of the responsibility for raising children (if there are any) and keeping the house. These are unpaid labors which are not accounted for in your estimation. Therefore, in many cases women actually loose money by getting married (because of the lost wages due to maternity leave and childrearing).
Furthermore, despite your griping, all the research indicates that men universally benefit from marriage and live longer if they are married. For women, on the other hand, life expectancy and health are correlated to marriage in more complex ways. It appears that while men benefit from the institution of marriage outright (they live longer lives and are more healthy) women benefit only from very good marriages and can have health problems from poor marriages. Therefore, again, it seems that marriage confers benefits upon individuals (men specifically) that prostitution does not.
Given your feelings on the matter, I would recommend that you not get married or that you get a divorce if you are already married. Not because I feel that you would lose out from the experience of marriage (because, as I indicated, the research shows that you would live a longer life for having gotten married....unless your wife kills you) but because I would not inflict your negativity on someone else. It seems that you are better suited for a life of visiting prostitutes and living alone. In fact, perhaps you should take up prostitution as a profession yourself. You might be very happy in that line of work.
Good luck!
A prostitute doesn't just take one man's money and have sex, she takes multiple. Also, she might be cheaper in the beginning but after you get some STDs the doctor bill might be a little high.Is marriage a legalized form of prostitution?
You have a very limited view of marriage, my friend. No where does it say that the wife must stay home all day. No where does it say that the husband pays for everything. You can set the terms of your own marriage. I've known couples who have both worked, both had their own bank accounts, with no shared accounts, and had a prenuptial agreement in place to keep things separate should they split up. I've known people in ';traditional'; marriages that worked just as well together. You can define your own relationship. And with your definition, you can remove the idea of paying for sex.
I like the way men sometimes don't think. Maybe you should walk around your wife one day if you have one. She may be a slob and an alcoholic. Most aren't. My wife can do three or four things at once and she does that all day long until she sits down and we watch an hour or two of television together.
I can well imagine what she would say after laundry. How about a stack of dishes created after a very good meal? What do you think she have to tell a labor relations board if she sued for a salery which she could say you never paid? If you have a wife and she's good to you in any way (and that includes the subject of this discussion), count your blessings.
Well depends on what type of girls ur going for. I mean if you get a girl that goes to college she will be making her own money and not have to depends on sum a-whole like urself. would u like it if ur daughter became a prostitute?...i hope not. A woman does a lot and sacrifices her body to bring something so beautiful to our lives, and that being our children. Have fun wit ur prostitutes and the STD's they give u as well. I heard Gonorrhea's a very good friend.
No intelligent woman would marry you or have sex with you.
We'd just steal your TV, eat all your food and spend your whole paycheck for fun.
If we had a free minute, we might even kick you in the balls for added pleasure. :)
It's quite funny your question I must say, but please you are stereotyping i go to work as well as my husband, and he's the one in my earhole all the time moaning at me!
You need to find happiness because you sound quite bitter
Most women these days work and most families are dual income. A marriage is a partnership - not a form of prostitution.
so, for you, marriage is only about getting laid?
sounds like you had it rough
I'm not sure whether you are asking a question or stating an opinion. But there are several flaws with your thesis. Technically, no money is exchanged in a marriage. Yes, it is true that many couples share property and in some cases, the male partner makes more money than the female and, thus, she benefits from the arrangement. This is not always the case. In fact, it is becoming increasingly less common for the wife to make less than the husband. In addition, even in egalitarian relationships, women also typically bear the bulk of the responsibility for raising children (if there are any) and keeping the house. These are unpaid labors which are not accounted for in your estimation. Therefore, in many cases women actually loose money by getting married (because of the lost wages due to maternity leave and childrearing).
Furthermore, despite your griping, all the research indicates that men universally benefit from marriage and live longer if they are married. For women, on the other hand, life expectancy and health are correlated to marriage in more complex ways. It appears that while men benefit from the institution of marriage outright (they live longer lives and are more healthy) women benefit only from very good marriages and can have health problems from poor marriages. Therefore, again, it seems that marriage confers benefits upon individuals (men specifically) that prostitution does not.
Given your feelings on the matter, I would recommend that you not get married or that you get a divorce if you are already married. Not because I feel that you would lose out from the experience of marriage (because, as I indicated, the research shows that you would live a longer life for having gotten married....unless your wife kills you) but because I would not inflict your negativity on someone else. It seems that you are better suited for a life of visiting prostitutes and living alone. In fact, perhaps you should take up prostitution as a profession yourself. You might be very happy in that line of work.
Good luck!
What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?
Not California or Massachusetts or Connecticut; it's already legal there.
What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?
http://www.thetaskforce.org/downloads/re鈥?/a>
this map shows you where they are putting laws against gay marriage. Its a little outdated though.
It does not show the places where we have a recognized legal status.What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?
there's probably movements in just about every state, but most of them aren't getting any recognition (yet)
georgia is but not yet hoping so i can marry my mate
What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?
http://www.thetaskforce.org/downloads/re鈥?/a>
this map shows you where they are putting laws against gay marriage. Its a little outdated though.
It does not show the places where we have a recognized legal status.What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?
there's probably movements in just about every state, but most of them aren't getting any recognition (yet)
georgia is but not yet hoping so i can marry my mate
Where/When am I supposed to get my marriage certificate?
I am getting married in Milwaukee, WI in July 2010. My fiance and I live in Minnesota, but will be traveling to Wisconsin for our wedding. Where am I supposed to get a marriage certificate? In the state of WI, the county I am getting married in, the state we currently live, etc?
How far in advance do I need it?Where/When am I supposed to get my marriage certificate?
http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelic鈥?/a> this website breaks everything down for you.Where/When am I supposed to get my marriage certificate?
You'll need a Wisconsin marriage license to get married in Wisconsin. You should check with the state of Wisconsin to see what their marriage license requirements are. Some states' marriage licenses expire in 90 days, some in 30 days, some in a week! You don't want to take the chance of having your license expire before your wedding date, so probably the closer to the wedding that you can get it, the better. Also, some states require blood tests before issuing a marriage license, so you really should just Google ';Wisconsin marriage requirements'; and find out that way.
You will be required to get your marriage license in the city/town you will be getting married in - not where you live now. Go to the town/city hall where you will be getting married, and you apply in the clerk's office.
Marriage licenses are usually valid for 60 days. Some states are more or less - so you will need to check with the city. So you get it within that time period of your wedding. Bring your fiance and both of your ID's.
You need to apply for your marriage license in the county where you are getting married. In Wisconsin there is a 6 day waiting period from the date when the application is signed until the license can be used. It is valid for 30 days. A marriage license in Milwaukee will cost $100.
From about.com
http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelic鈥?/a>
If you talk to you contact person at the wedding or reception site, they would probably be able to give you more details on the rules for that county.
You'll need to get the license in the locale where you plan to marry. There are differences in how long they are valid for, so I would call the courthouse and ask that question directly at the source.
http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelic鈥?/a>
Check with the local clerk of court, but About.com says:
PLEASE NOTE!! Requirements may vary as each county in Wisconsin could have their own requirements. Check with your County Clerk for changes and clarifications in the requirements before you leave home to apply for your marriage license.
ID Requirement:
You must bring your driver's license with your current address or two pieces of mail with your current address, Social Security Number, and have a certified copy of your birth certificate.
Know your parents full names, mothers' maiden names. Make sure you have the date and place of your marriage ceremony and the name, address and phone number of the officiant.
Make sure you contact your County Clerk's office prior to leaving to get your marriage license. Some counties have different requirements as to required documents.
Residency Requirement:
One of you needs to have resided for at least 30 days in the Wisconsin county where you are applying. If you are from out-of-state, you must apply in the county where the ceremony will take place.
Previous Marriages:
In Wisconsin, you must show proof of divorce, death, or civil annulment from your most recent marriage.
You need to wait six months after a divorce before getting remarried.
Bring a copy of judgment of divorce, legal annulment or death certificate from your most recent marriage.
Waiting Period in Wisconsin:
There is a waiting period of five days in Wisconsin, exclusive of the day you apply -- so it is really like six days. Check with the County Clerk's office for more information.
';BEST ';RULE OF THUMB'; (considering weekends, etc.): Apply no less than 7 days before and no more than 35 days before the ceremony.';
Source: Walworth County
So it looks like you'll need to apply at least a week in advance of the wedding, but can do it as far as a year in advance. The clerk of court will then let you know how and when to get your certified copy after the ceremony.
Congrats and best wishes
How far in advance do I need it?Where/When am I supposed to get my marriage certificate?
http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelic鈥?/a> this website breaks everything down for you.Where/When am I supposed to get my marriage certificate?
You'll need a Wisconsin marriage license to get married in Wisconsin. You should check with the state of Wisconsin to see what their marriage license requirements are. Some states' marriage licenses expire in 90 days, some in 30 days, some in a week! You don't want to take the chance of having your license expire before your wedding date, so probably the closer to the wedding that you can get it, the better. Also, some states require blood tests before issuing a marriage license, so you really should just Google ';Wisconsin marriage requirements'; and find out that way.
You will be required to get your marriage license in the city/town you will be getting married in - not where you live now. Go to the town/city hall where you will be getting married, and you apply in the clerk's office.
Marriage licenses are usually valid for 60 days. Some states are more or less - so you will need to check with the city. So you get it within that time period of your wedding. Bring your fiance and both of your ID's.
You need to apply for your marriage license in the county where you are getting married. In Wisconsin there is a 6 day waiting period from the date when the application is signed until the license can be used. It is valid for 30 days. A marriage license in Milwaukee will cost $100.
From about.com
http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelic鈥?/a>
If you talk to you contact person at the wedding or reception site, they would probably be able to give you more details on the rules for that county.
You'll need to get the license in the locale where you plan to marry. There are differences in how long they are valid for, so I would call the courthouse and ask that question directly at the source.
http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelic鈥?/a>
Check with the local clerk of court, but About.com says:
PLEASE NOTE!! Requirements may vary as each county in Wisconsin could have their own requirements. Check with your County Clerk for changes and clarifications in the requirements before you leave home to apply for your marriage license.
ID Requirement:
You must bring your driver's license with your current address or two pieces of mail with your current address, Social Security Number, and have a certified copy of your birth certificate.
Know your parents full names, mothers' maiden names. Make sure you have the date and place of your marriage ceremony and the name, address and phone number of the officiant.
Make sure you contact your County Clerk's office prior to leaving to get your marriage license. Some counties have different requirements as to required documents.
Residency Requirement:
One of you needs to have resided for at least 30 days in the Wisconsin county where you are applying. If you are from out-of-state, you must apply in the county where the ceremony will take place.
Previous Marriages:
In Wisconsin, you must show proof of divorce, death, or civil annulment from your most recent marriage.
You need to wait six months after a divorce before getting remarried.
Bring a copy of judgment of divorce, legal annulment or death certificate from your most recent marriage.
Waiting Period in Wisconsin:
There is a waiting period of five days in Wisconsin, exclusive of the day you apply -- so it is really like six days. Check with the County Clerk's office for more information.
';BEST ';RULE OF THUMB'; (considering weekends, etc.): Apply no less than 7 days before and no more than 35 days before the ceremony.';
Source: Walworth County
So it looks like you'll need to apply at least a week in advance of the wedding, but can do it as far as a year in advance. The clerk of court will then let you know how and when to get your certified copy after the ceremony.
Congrats and best wishes
What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?
Not California or Massachusetts or Connecticut; it's already legal there.
What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?
http://www.thetaskforce.org/downloads/re鈥?/a>
this map shows you where they are putting laws against gay marriage. Its a little outdated though.
It does not show the places where we have a recognized legal status.What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?
there's probably movements in just about every state, but most of them aren't getting any recognition (yet)
georgia is but not yet hoping so i can marry my matelipstick kiss
What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?
http://www.thetaskforce.org/downloads/re鈥?/a>
this map shows you where they are putting laws against gay marriage. Its a little outdated though.
It does not show the places where we have a recognized legal status.What states are trying to legalize same-sex marriage?
there's probably movements in just about every state, but most of them aren't getting any recognition (yet)
georgia is but not yet hoping so i can marry my mate
Which gender (today and during the past centuries) is/tends to be more obsess with marriage? Male or Female?
Please respond to the my question with regard of the time period, location, and influence of the society.
Please mention your gender in the beginning of your answer.Which gender (today and during the past centuries) is/tends to be more obsess with marriage? Male or Female?
Female
I think nowadays it's largely personal, as most sex differences show a vague trend rather than a clear trend - but it's certainly more socially acceptable - or expected? - for a girl to be obessed with marriage than a guy.
In the past - again, I think the difference wasn't as clear cut as people think. Girls needed to be ';married off';, guys needed to marry to carry on their familly name, etc. Girls certainly had less freedom till they married, that would be a good motivation to marry. But it might also have been caused by people's obsession with marrying off their daughters (father's especially, as they would stand to gain the most from the son-in-law - i.e. in buisness and politics if they were influence, help and work if not etc.)Which gender (today and during the past centuries) is/tends to be more obsess with marriage? Male or Female?
The environment (it麓s in Spain) in which I move seem that the men are more interested than the women. But when I talk with other different groups of persons about this interest it seems similar between them (more or less, perhaps, probably, the girls a bit more but it麓s changing) between men and women.
Among my group of friends, the women don麓t seem very interested in marriage, no. While the boys are talking about ... ';to stabilize'; the relations. We (the ';girls';, the women) talked more about to reach a proper job, about personal balance in the life too and about to be happy with the our love today (about to have children as well, sometimes), step by step with our couple, ';living today and looking ahead';. But without to consider (we, the women) that the marriage should be necessary for this.
At this moment I see that they (the men) are demanding more to have '; the things in order'; to my friends (girls) but the truth is that the men respect with fewer insistence than when a girl does it, the decision of delay of the women.
A greeting.
I am female.
My answer:
Probaby female.
They are usually the ones that dream up their ';perfect weddings';
Female
Please mention your gender in the beginning of your answer.Which gender (today and during the past centuries) is/tends to be more obsess with marriage? Male or Female?
Female
I think nowadays it's largely personal, as most sex differences show a vague trend rather than a clear trend - but it's certainly more socially acceptable - or expected? - for a girl to be obessed with marriage than a guy.
In the past - again, I think the difference wasn't as clear cut as people think. Girls needed to be ';married off';, guys needed to marry to carry on their familly name, etc. Girls certainly had less freedom till they married, that would be a good motivation to marry. But it might also have been caused by people's obsession with marrying off their daughters (father's especially, as they would stand to gain the most from the son-in-law - i.e. in buisness and politics if they were influence, help and work if not etc.)Which gender (today and during the past centuries) is/tends to be more obsess with marriage? Male or Female?
The environment (it麓s in Spain) in which I move seem that the men are more interested than the women. But when I talk with other different groups of persons about this interest it seems similar between them (more or less, perhaps, probably, the girls a bit more but it麓s changing) between men and women.
Among my group of friends, the women don麓t seem very interested in marriage, no. While the boys are talking about ... ';to stabilize'; the relations. We (the ';girls';, the women) talked more about to reach a proper job, about personal balance in the life too and about to be happy with the our love today (about to have children as well, sometimes), step by step with our couple, ';living today and looking ahead';. But without to consider (we, the women) that the marriage should be necessary for this.
At this moment I see that they (the men) are demanding more to have '; the things in order'; to my friends (girls) but the truth is that the men respect with fewer insistence than when a girl does it, the decision of delay of the women.
A greeting.
I am female.
My answer:
Probaby female.
They are usually the ones that dream up their ';perfect weddings';
Female
Where/When am I supposed to get my marriage certificate?
I am getting married in Milwaukee, WI in July 2010. My fiance and I live in Minnesota, but will be traveling to Wisconsin for our wedding. Where am I supposed to get a marriage certificate? In the state of WI, the county I am getting married in, the state we currently live, etc?
How far in advance do I need it?Where/When am I supposed to get my marriage certificate?
http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelic鈥?/a> this website breaks everything down for you.Where/When am I supposed to get my marriage certificate?
You'll need a Wisconsin marriage license to get married in Wisconsin. You should check with the state of Wisconsin to see what their marriage license requirements are. Some states' marriage licenses expire in 90 days, some in 30 days, some in a week! You don't want to take the chance of having your license expire before your wedding date, so probably the closer to the wedding that you can get it, the better. Also, some states require blood tests before issuing a marriage license, so you really should just Google ';Wisconsin marriage requirements'; and find out that way.
You will be required to get your marriage license in the city/town you will be getting married in - not where you live now. Go to the town/city hall where you will be getting married, and you apply in the clerk's office.
Marriage licenses are usually valid for 60 days. Some states are more or less - so you will need to check with the city. So you get it within that time period of your wedding. Bring your fiance and both of your ID's.
You need to apply for your marriage license in the county where you are getting married. In Wisconsin there is a 6 day waiting period from the date when the application is signed until the license can be used. It is valid for 30 days. A marriage license in Milwaukee will cost $100.
From about.com
http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelic鈥?/a>
If you talk to you contact person at the wedding or reception site, they would probably be able to give you more details on the rules for that county.
You'll need to get the license in the locale where you plan to marry. There are differences in how long they are valid for, so I would call the courthouse and ask that question directly at the source.
http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelic鈥?/a>
Check with the local clerk of court, but About.com says:
PLEASE NOTE!! Requirements may vary as each county in Wisconsin could have their own requirements. Check with your County Clerk for changes and clarifications in the requirements before you leave home to apply for your marriage license.
ID Requirement:
You must bring your driver's license with your current address or two pieces of mail with your current address, Social Security Number, and have a certified copy of your birth certificate.
Know your parents full names, mothers' maiden names. Make sure you have the date and place of your marriage ceremony and the name, address and phone number of the officiant.
Make sure you contact your County Clerk's office prior to leaving to get your marriage license. Some counties have different requirements as to required documents.
Residency Requirement:
One of you needs to have resided for at least 30 days in the Wisconsin county where you are applying. If you are from out-of-state, you must apply in the county where the ceremony will take place.
Previous Marriages:
In Wisconsin, you must show proof of divorce, death, or civil annulment from your most recent marriage.
You need to wait six months after a divorce before getting remarried.
Bring a copy of judgment of divorce, legal annulment or death certificate from your most recent marriage.
Waiting Period in Wisconsin:
There is a waiting period of five days in Wisconsin, exclusive of the day you apply -- so it is really like six days. Check with the County Clerk's office for more information.
';BEST ';RULE OF THUMB'; (considering weekends, etc.): Apply no less than 7 days before and no more than 35 days before the ceremony.';
Source: Walworth County
So it looks like you'll need to apply at least a week in advance of the wedding, but can do it as far as a year in advance. The clerk of court will then let you know how and when to get your certified copy after the ceremony.
Congrats and best wishes
How far in advance do I need it?Where/When am I supposed to get my marriage certificate?
http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelic鈥?/a> this website breaks everything down for you.Where/When am I supposed to get my marriage certificate?
You'll need a Wisconsin marriage license to get married in Wisconsin. You should check with the state of Wisconsin to see what their marriage license requirements are. Some states' marriage licenses expire in 90 days, some in 30 days, some in a week! You don't want to take the chance of having your license expire before your wedding date, so probably the closer to the wedding that you can get it, the better. Also, some states require blood tests before issuing a marriage license, so you really should just Google ';Wisconsin marriage requirements'; and find out that way.
You will be required to get your marriage license in the city/town you will be getting married in - not where you live now. Go to the town/city hall where you will be getting married, and you apply in the clerk's office.
Marriage licenses are usually valid for 60 days. Some states are more or less - so you will need to check with the city. So you get it within that time period of your wedding. Bring your fiance and both of your ID's.
You need to apply for your marriage license in the county where you are getting married. In Wisconsin there is a 6 day waiting period from the date when the application is signed until the license can be used. It is valid for 30 days. A marriage license in Milwaukee will cost $100.
From about.com
http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelic鈥?/a>
If you talk to you contact person at the wedding or reception site, they would probably be able to give you more details on the rules for that county.
You'll need to get the license in the locale where you plan to marry. There are differences in how long they are valid for, so I would call the courthouse and ask that question directly at the source.
http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelic鈥?/a>
Check with the local clerk of court, but About.com says:
PLEASE NOTE!! Requirements may vary as each county in Wisconsin could have their own requirements. Check with your County Clerk for changes and clarifications in the requirements before you leave home to apply for your marriage license.
ID Requirement:
You must bring your driver's license with your current address or two pieces of mail with your current address, Social Security Number, and have a certified copy of your birth certificate.
Know your parents full names, mothers' maiden names. Make sure you have the date and place of your marriage ceremony and the name, address and phone number of the officiant.
Make sure you contact your County Clerk's office prior to leaving to get your marriage license. Some counties have different requirements as to required documents.
Residency Requirement:
One of you needs to have resided for at least 30 days in the Wisconsin county where you are applying. If you are from out-of-state, you must apply in the county where the ceremony will take place.
Previous Marriages:
In Wisconsin, you must show proof of divorce, death, or civil annulment from your most recent marriage.
You need to wait six months after a divorce before getting remarried.
Bring a copy of judgment of divorce, legal annulment or death certificate from your most recent marriage.
Waiting Period in Wisconsin:
There is a waiting period of five days in Wisconsin, exclusive of the day you apply -- so it is really like six days. Check with the County Clerk's office for more information.
';BEST ';RULE OF THUMB'; (considering weekends, etc.): Apply no less than 7 days before and no more than 35 days before the ceremony.';
Source: Walworth County
So it looks like you'll need to apply at least a week in advance of the wedding, but can do it as far as a year in advance. The clerk of court will then let you know how and when to get your certified copy after the ceremony.
Congrats and best wishes
Where to look for a copy of a marriage license?
I am doing a family tree on my husband's side of the family and am in desperate need to obtain a copy of marriage license of his great-great-great-grandfather. There is some speculation that he was married more than once, so it will be fascinating to see how many marriage licenses we will find with his name on it. Can someone point me in the right direction?Where to look for a copy of a marriage license?
Do you know what state he was married in? It sounds like you are looking for something that is very old. If you can find the state he was married in and the name he went by, then you can contact their vital records department. See if they may be able to lead you to a copy of his marriage license. If you can easily get to that state, you can actually view it free, but if you want a paper copy for yourself, it will cost you a bit of money.
Since you are doing such an extensive project, have you ever thought of using an online database to find your information? Try http://www.recordssitereviews.com/marriage_records.php to find even more information on your husband's great-great-great-grandfather. I know this one works because I've actually used it in the past for genealogy searches.
You can see his criminal record, birth certificate, where he has lived, any other names he has gone by, and even his driving record. If you decide to go online, it will save you a lot of sleuthing. Make sure that you choose one with a large database that updates often.Where to look for a copy of a marriage license?
If someone in the family still has the family Bible, many times that Bible will have births, deaths, and marriages recorded in it. See if someone has it, you might very well find a great deal of information in it.
Sometimes marriages weren't recorded, or were not really formally performed, and thus didn't have a marriage license. And sometimes a man would have a legal wife and legal offspring, and he'd have one (or more) women on the side, with even more kids, who had the misfortune of being called bastards or illegitimate, and were considered to be lower class.
Of course, these days we still have people who are not formally married and who have kids together, but at least we usually don't call the kids bastards.
the clerk and records office in the state,city, county which you think he was married would have it on file. it might take awhile to get it back but keep looking.
also maybe the marriage was anounced in the local paper. you can go to that local library and scroll through old papers. good luck and what a great gift!
Mormon book stores offer great research materials for searching your ancestors.
They are THE source for knowing where and how to find old doccuments.
I would highly reccommend them as a resources. Begin there.
Look on line or the yellow pages for a Mormon book store in your area.
Do you know what state he was married in? It sounds like you are looking for something that is very old. If you can find the state he was married in and the name he went by, then you can contact their vital records department. See if they may be able to lead you to a copy of his marriage license. If you can easily get to that state, you can actually view it free, but if you want a paper copy for yourself, it will cost you a bit of money.
Since you are doing such an extensive project, have you ever thought of using an online database to find your information? Try http://www.recordssitereviews.com/marriage_records.php to find even more information on your husband's great-great-great-grandfather. I know this one works because I've actually used it in the past for genealogy searches.
You can see his criminal record, birth certificate, where he has lived, any other names he has gone by, and even his driving record. If you decide to go online, it will save you a lot of sleuthing. Make sure that you choose one with a large database that updates often.Where to look for a copy of a marriage license?
If someone in the family still has the family Bible, many times that Bible will have births, deaths, and marriages recorded in it. See if someone has it, you might very well find a great deal of information in it.
Sometimes marriages weren't recorded, or were not really formally performed, and thus didn't have a marriage license. And sometimes a man would have a legal wife and legal offspring, and he'd have one (or more) women on the side, with even more kids, who had the misfortune of being called bastards or illegitimate, and were considered to be lower class.
Of course, these days we still have people who are not formally married and who have kids together, but at least we usually don't call the kids bastards.
the clerk and records office in the state,city, county which you think he was married would have it on file. it might take awhile to get it back but keep looking.
also maybe the marriage was anounced in the local paper. you can go to that local library and scroll through old papers. good luck and what a great gift!
Mormon book stores offer great research materials for searching your ancestors.
They are THE source for knowing where and how to find old doccuments.
I would highly reccommend them as a resources. Begin there.
Look on line or the yellow pages for a Mormon book store in your area.
What are the christian symbols for confirmation and marriage?
Symbols? Dont think there are any. Confirmation is when the Bishop lays hands on your head and prays for the holy Spirit to empower you for Christian service, as in Acts. It is when you decide to take on the vows your parents made on your behalf at infant baptism. ie decide you want to dedicate your life to Jesus.
Christian marriage is a woman and man deciding to commit themselves solely to each other for life. (no Adam and Steve!!)What are the christian symbols for confirmation and marriage?
the thumbs up for confirmation and I think the symbol for marriage is a ball and chain.What are the christian symbols for confirmation and marriage?
Confirmation is the majurity you got to know about the God and the world.
Marriage is the sacramand and purity. Romans 7:2
For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage.
There aren't any actual 'Christian symbols' as such (if you're thinking of things like the cross or the icthus) for those- but you'd probably find a dove or flame used quite a lot (as they're often used to represent the Holy Spirit) on things like Confirmation cards and anything that signifies unity or eternity could be used for marriage (like the rings- the circle representing eternity). The dove is also quite common as a symbol of peace- and it often appears on wedding cards.
Christian marriage is a woman and man deciding to commit themselves solely to each other for life. (no Adam and Steve!!)What are the christian symbols for confirmation and marriage?
the thumbs up for confirmation and I think the symbol for marriage is a ball and chain.What are the christian symbols for confirmation and marriage?
Confirmation is the majurity you got to know about the God and the world.
Marriage is the sacramand and purity. Romans 7:2
For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage.
There aren't any actual 'Christian symbols' as such (if you're thinking of things like the cross or the icthus) for those- but you'd probably find a dove or flame used quite a lot (as they're often used to represent the Holy Spirit) on things like Confirmation cards and anything that signifies unity or eternity could be used for marriage (like the rings- the circle representing eternity). The dove is also quite common as a symbol of peace- and it often appears on wedding cards.
Is marriage the ultimate cure for loneliness?
I don't know, since I've never been married (I'm twenty), but is it true that once someone gets married, they don't feel lonely inside anymore?
And that marriage is the key to lasting happiness?Is marriage the ultimate cure for loneliness?
That entirely depends on the people involved, their feelings, and the closeness they have. You can feel like the you are completely alone in a marriage if you cannot communicate on a deep level. If you don't have similar goals and beliefs and enjoy things together you feel utterly alone. It isn't the key to lasting happiness at all. If it were half of all marriages wouldn't end in divorce. Is marriage the ultimate cure for loneliness?
No I don't believe this at all. Everybody feels lonely sometimes even if the marriage is a success and if the marriage isn't a success it could make you feel even more lonely because once you're married you usually don't have a lot of time for old friends so if things aren't working out a lot of times you won't have anyone to turn to because of the marriage. My sister was married for ten years and when it ended she told me she felt sad and lonely everyday with him. Even though it might sound silly it's possible to be around someone all the time everyday and still feel lonely.
Hope This Helps!
Jessie,xo
I'm 57, a grandmother and I'm married to my second husband. There is no magic bullet here. In order for a marriage to work, both people have to have a lot of patience and to work at it. Probably there's nothing more lonely than going through life without a partner, without a family and without friends, but I think quality is a lot more important than quantity in this matter. You only need a few really close friends, one or two close family members and a spouse or partner you love to go through life fully supported. You can have all the people in the world surrounding you and still be very lonely.
There are a few things that can give you as much happiness or more than marriage - children, a job you really love because you are great at it and it is your life's work, a sense of purpose from making a real positive difference in other people's lives.
I just threw up in my mouth a little.
Love: When you take a bubble bath together
Lust: When you take a bath in Jell-o together
Marriage: When you give the kids a bath
Love: A romantic candle-light dinner for two
Lust: ';Do I have to buy you dinner first?';
Marriage: 4 McDonald's Happy Meals . . . to go
Love: Giving your love some candy
Lust: Thinking you are the candy
Marriage: Scraping the kids' candy off of the carpet
Love: Sex every night
Lust: Sex 5 times a night
Marriage: What's sex?
Love: A night out at the symphony
Lust: A night out at the Holiday Inn
Marriage: A night out at Sesame Street On Ice
Love: French perfume
Lust: Brut aftershave
Marriage: ';The baby needs changing. . .';
Love: Lending your jacket to your love when he/she is cold
Lust: ';I can think of a way to stay warm . . .';
Marriage: Your teenaged daughter has borrowed all of your jackets
Love: Talking and cuddling
Lust: Rolling over and falling asleep
Marriage: Getting up to wash your hands . . .
Love: Finding the ';Fell in Love on AOL'; room
Lust: Finding the ';Blonde Dominatrix'; room
Marriage: Finding the ';Married and Looking'; room
Love: Long drives through the countryside
Lust: Long parking sessions at Lover's Lookout
Marriage: Long drives with the kids screaming in the backseat
No thats not true. Some people dont feel lonely and marriage can make it worse. LOL. It depends on the relationship. If you find someone you truely love, and you still spend time with them between work and whatever else is going on then yes it could be the cure to lonelyness unless you have depression. And that needs meds, not just a relationship.
No, marriage is not a cure for loneliness. You can be together with someone and still feel lonely. You need to find happiness within yourself and not rely on someone else to fill that void.
No. People can be in a whole group of others and still feel lonely. Just because a person gets married doesn't mean they are really understood by the other person or even really cared about. People report straying outside a marriage because they felt lonely.
Marriage isn't the key to lasting happiness. For a bit time, yes, it might seem, but marriage brings a lot of responsibilities.
NO! marriage is not the solution! don't do it. Just have a open and honest relationship! Look at Gene Simmons, happily Unmarried for over 20 years with the same girlfriend.
you may not be lonely, but you could wind up with a real hassle, then get left and have to pay child support. there are longer lasting and worse consequences than loneliness so don't rush into anything. think.
It's a load of crap. Marriage does not insure not being lonely. I've been single for years (after two marriages) and I much prefer living alone. There's a big difference between being lonely and being alone.
im not married either but it is NOT marriage,,no offense to married people but there are always those who suffer abuse from marriage. i have to say the ultimate cure for loneliness is children...
No. companionship is just as good you can live with someone or just date regular and it is just as good as being married. Being married may fix your problem but it also brings some others...
People will try to tell you the right thing instead of the truth fact of the matter is the one major reason people get married is becuase they are lonely
No, it only works like that if you are truly happy with the person you are with and couldn't imagine yourself with anyone else, otherwise you will still be very unhappy.
No marriage is no cure for loneliness. That's a myth, like the one about your wedding day being the happiest day of your life.
lol no. friendships make u happy and pets. but then agian idk cuz im not married. haha but i think it depends on the person cuz i never feel loney.but i know people that proabbably would feel that way
I felt more lonely married, than not married. It depends on if your marriage is good or not. My husband was a cheat, so I felt lonely. I didn't know he was a cheat until after, though.
No, marriage is not the key to lasting happiness. Self-love is.
That can be very true with a successful marriage.
If depends on how you react to eachother, like if he talks to you alot but never hugs or tell he loves you then its kinda like old couples not having sex anymore. lol. I really dont know.
good luck.
No, you can have someone and be just as lonely. Haven't you read some of the horror stories on this site? Good Luck!
No, I'm married and sometimes I still feel lonely as hell even when I'm right next to him.
WHEN U GET MARRIED U MIGHT REALIZE U WERE BETTER OFF ALONE
no, a dog is.
not at all. is is a load....
get some friends???
And that marriage is the key to lasting happiness?Is marriage the ultimate cure for loneliness?
That entirely depends on the people involved, their feelings, and the closeness they have. You can feel like the you are completely alone in a marriage if you cannot communicate on a deep level. If you don't have similar goals and beliefs and enjoy things together you feel utterly alone. It isn't the key to lasting happiness at all. If it were half of all marriages wouldn't end in divorce. Is marriage the ultimate cure for loneliness?
No I don't believe this at all. Everybody feels lonely sometimes even if the marriage is a success and if the marriage isn't a success it could make you feel even more lonely because once you're married you usually don't have a lot of time for old friends so if things aren't working out a lot of times you won't have anyone to turn to because of the marriage. My sister was married for ten years and when it ended she told me she felt sad and lonely everyday with him. Even though it might sound silly it's possible to be around someone all the time everyday and still feel lonely.
Hope This Helps!
Jessie,xo
I'm 57, a grandmother and I'm married to my second husband. There is no magic bullet here. In order for a marriage to work, both people have to have a lot of patience and to work at it. Probably there's nothing more lonely than going through life without a partner, without a family and without friends, but I think quality is a lot more important than quantity in this matter. You only need a few really close friends, one or two close family members and a spouse or partner you love to go through life fully supported. You can have all the people in the world surrounding you and still be very lonely.
There are a few things that can give you as much happiness or more than marriage - children, a job you really love because you are great at it and it is your life's work, a sense of purpose from making a real positive difference in other people's lives.
I just threw up in my mouth a little.
Love: When you take a bubble bath together
Lust: When you take a bath in Jell-o together
Marriage: When you give the kids a bath
Love: A romantic candle-light dinner for two
Lust: ';Do I have to buy you dinner first?';
Marriage: 4 McDonald's Happy Meals . . . to go
Love: Giving your love some candy
Lust: Thinking you are the candy
Marriage: Scraping the kids' candy off of the carpet
Love: Sex every night
Lust: Sex 5 times a night
Marriage: What's sex?
Love: A night out at the symphony
Lust: A night out at the Holiday Inn
Marriage: A night out at Sesame Street On Ice
Love: French perfume
Lust: Brut aftershave
Marriage: ';The baby needs changing. . .';
Love: Lending your jacket to your love when he/she is cold
Lust: ';I can think of a way to stay warm . . .';
Marriage: Your teenaged daughter has borrowed all of your jackets
Love: Talking and cuddling
Lust: Rolling over and falling asleep
Marriage: Getting up to wash your hands . . .
Love: Finding the ';Fell in Love on AOL'; room
Lust: Finding the ';Blonde Dominatrix'; room
Marriage: Finding the ';Married and Looking'; room
Love: Long drives through the countryside
Lust: Long parking sessions at Lover's Lookout
Marriage: Long drives with the kids screaming in the backseat
No thats not true. Some people dont feel lonely and marriage can make it worse. LOL. It depends on the relationship. If you find someone you truely love, and you still spend time with them between work and whatever else is going on then yes it could be the cure to lonelyness unless you have depression. And that needs meds, not just a relationship.
No, marriage is not a cure for loneliness. You can be together with someone and still feel lonely. You need to find happiness within yourself and not rely on someone else to fill that void.
No. People can be in a whole group of others and still feel lonely. Just because a person gets married doesn't mean they are really understood by the other person or even really cared about. People report straying outside a marriage because they felt lonely.
Marriage isn't the key to lasting happiness. For a bit time, yes, it might seem, but marriage brings a lot of responsibilities.
NO! marriage is not the solution! don't do it. Just have a open and honest relationship! Look at Gene Simmons, happily Unmarried for over 20 years with the same girlfriend.
you may not be lonely, but you could wind up with a real hassle, then get left and have to pay child support. there are longer lasting and worse consequences than loneliness so don't rush into anything. think.
It's a load of crap. Marriage does not insure not being lonely. I've been single for years (after two marriages) and I much prefer living alone. There's a big difference between being lonely and being alone.
im not married either but it is NOT marriage,,no offense to married people but there are always those who suffer abuse from marriage. i have to say the ultimate cure for loneliness is children...
No. companionship is just as good you can live with someone or just date regular and it is just as good as being married. Being married may fix your problem but it also brings some others...
People will try to tell you the right thing instead of the truth fact of the matter is the one major reason people get married is becuase they are lonely
No, it only works like that if you are truly happy with the person you are with and couldn't imagine yourself with anyone else, otherwise you will still be very unhappy.
No marriage is no cure for loneliness. That's a myth, like the one about your wedding day being the happiest day of your life.
lol no. friendships make u happy and pets. but then agian idk cuz im not married. haha but i think it depends on the person cuz i never feel loney.but i know people that proabbably would feel that way
I felt more lonely married, than not married. It depends on if your marriage is good or not. My husband was a cheat, so I felt lonely. I didn't know he was a cheat until after, though.
No, marriage is not the key to lasting happiness. Self-love is.
That can be very true with a successful marriage.
If depends on how you react to eachother, like if he talks to you alot but never hugs or tell he loves you then its kinda like old couples not having sex anymore. lol. I really dont know.
good luck.
No, you can have someone and be just as lonely. Haven't you read some of the horror stories on this site? Good Luck!
No, I'm married and sometimes I still feel lonely as hell even when I'm right next to him.
WHEN U GET MARRIED U MIGHT REALIZE U WERE BETTER OFF ALONE
no, a dog is.
not at all. is is a load....
get some friends???
Is marriage a legalized form of prostitution?
in both cases you pay for sex... however, a prostitute its cheaper, you get what you want and she leaves and you do dont have to see her until next time you don't have to pay for it every day with the nagging and bullshit you go through with a marriage and no lawyer fees to have her leave... also a prostitute at least works.. a wife stay all day long watching tv and eating and stealing your paycheck which you earned by working very hard.Is marriage a legalized form of prostitution?
A prostitute doesn't just take one man's money and have sex, she takes multiple. Also, she might be cheaper in the beginning but after you get some STDs the doctor bill might be a little high.Is marriage a legalized form of prostitution?
You have a very limited view of marriage, my friend. No where does it say that the wife must stay home all day. No where does it say that the husband pays for everything. You can set the terms of your own marriage. I've known couples who have both worked, both had their own bank accounts, with no shared accounts, and had a prenuptial agreement in place to keep things separate should they split up. I've known people in ';traditional'; marriages that worked just as well together. You can define your own relationship. And with your definition, you can remove the idea of paying for sex.
I like the way men sometimes don't think. Maybe you should walk around your wife one day if you have one. She may be a slob and an alcoholic. Most aren't. My wife can do three or four things at once and she does that all day long until she sits down and we watch an hour or two of television together.
I can well imagine what she would say after laundry. How about a stack of dishes created after a very good meal? What do you think she have to tell a labor relations board if she sued for a salery which she could say you never paid? If you have a wife and she's good to you in any way (and that includes the subject of this discussion), count your blessings.
Well depends on what type of girls ur going for. I mean if you get a girl that goes to college she will be making her own money and not have to depends on sum a-whole like urself. would u like it if ur daughter became a prostitute?...i hope not. A woman does a lot and sacrifices her body to bring something so beautiful to our lives, and that being our children. Have fun wit ur prostitutes and the STD's they give u as well. I heard Gonorrhea's a very good friend.
No intelligent woman would marry you or have sex with you.
We'd just steal your TV, eat all your food and spend your whole paycheck for fun.
If we had a free minute, we might even kick you in the balls for added pleasure. :)
It's quite funny your question I must say, but please you are stereotyping i go to work as well as my husband, and he's the one in my earhole all the time moaning at me!
You need to find happiness because you sound quite bitter
Most women these days work and most families are dual income. A marriage is a partnership - not a form of prostitution.
so, for you, marriage is only about getting laid?
sounds like you had it rough
I'm not sure whether you are asking a question or stating an opinion. But there are several flaws with your thesis. Technically, no money is exchanged in a marriage. Yes, it is true that many couples share property and in some cases, the male partner makes more money than the female and, thus, she benefits from the arrangement. This is not always the case. In fact, it is becoming increasingly less common for the wife to make less than the husband. In addition, even in egalitarian relationships, women also typically bear the bulk of the responsibility for raising children (if there are any) and keeping the house. These are unpaid labors which are not accounted for in your estimation. Therefore, in many cases women actually loose money by getting married (because of the lost wages due to maternity leave and childrearing).
Furthermore, despite your griping, all the research indicates that men universally benefit from marriage and live longer if they are married. For women, on the other hand, life expectancy and health are correlated to marriage in more complex ways. It appears that while men benefit from the institution of marriage outright (they live longer lives and are more healthy) women benefit only from very good marriages and can have health problems from poor marriages. Therefore, again, it seems that marriage confers benefits upon individuals (men specifically) that prostitution does not.
Given your feelings on the matter, I would recommend that you not get married or that you get a divorce if you are already married. Not because I feel that you would lose out from the experience of marriage (because, as I indicated, the research shows that you would live a longer life for having gotten married....unless your wife kills you) but because I would not inflict your negativity on someone else. It seems that you are better suited for a life of visiting prostitutes and living alone. In fact, perhaps you should take up prostitution as a profession yourself. You might be very happy in that line of work.
Good luck!lipstick kiss
A prostitute doesn't just take one man's money and have sex, she takes multiple. Also, she might be cheaper in the beginning but after you get some STDs the doctor bill might be a little high.Is marriage a legalized form of prostitution?
You have a very limited view of marriage, my friend. No where does it say that the wife must stay home all day. No where does it say that the husband pays for everything. You can set the terms of your own marriage. I've known couples who have both worked, both had their own bank accounts, with no shared accounts, and had a prenuptial agreement in place to keep things separate should they split up. I've known people in ';traditional'; marriages that worked just as well together. You can define your own relationship. And with your definition, you can remove the idea of paying for sex.
I like the way men sometimes don't think. Maybe you should walk around your wife one day if you have one. She may be a slob and an alcoholic. Most aren't. My wife can do three or four things at once and she does that all day long until she sits down and we watch an hour or two of television together.
I can well imagine what she would say after laundry. How about a stack of dishes created after a very good meal? What do you think she have to tell a labor relations board if she sued for a salery which she could say you never paid? If you have a wife and she's good to you in any way (and that includes the subject of this discussion), count your blessings.
Well depends on what type of girls ur going for. I mean if you get a girl that goes to college she will be making her own money and not have to depends on sum a-whole like urself. would u like it if ur daughter became a prostitute?...i hope not. A woman does a lot and sacrifices her body to bring something so beautiful to our lives, and that being our children. Have fun wit ur prostitutes and the STD's they give u as well. I heard Gonorrhea's a very good friend.
No intelligent woman would marry you or have sex with you.
We'd just steal your TV, eat all your food and spend your whole paycheck for fun.
If we had a free minute, we might even kick you in the balls for added pleasure. :)
It's quite funny your question I must say, but please you are stereotyping i go to work as well as my husband, and he's the one in my earhole all the time moaning at me!
You need to find happiness because you sound quite bitter
Most women these days work and most families are dual income. A marriage is a partnership - not a form of prostitution.
so, for you, marriage is only about getting laid?
sounds like you had it rough
I'm not sure whether you are asking a question or stating an opinion. But there are several flaws with your thesis. Technically, no money is exchanged in a marriage. Yes, it is true that many couples share property and in some cases, the male partner makes more money than the female and, thus, she benefits from the arrangement. This is not always the case. In fact, it is becoming increasingly less common for the wife to make less than the husband. In addition, even in egalitarian relationships, women also typically bear the bulk of the responsibility for raising children (if there are any) and keeping the house. These are unpaid labors which are not accounted for in your estimation. Therefore, in many cases women actually loose money by getting married (because of the lost wages due to maternity leave and childrearing).
Furthermore, despite your griping, all the research indicates that men universally benefit from marriage and live longer if they are married. For women, on the other hand, life expectancy and health are correlated to marriage in more complex ways. It appears that while men benefit from the institution of marriage outright (they live longer lives and are more healthy) women benefit only from very good marriages and can have health problems from poor marriages. Therefore, again, it seems that marriage confers benefits upon individuals (men specifically) that prostitution does not.
Given your feelings on the matter, I would recommend that you not get married or that you get a divorce if you are already married. Not because I feel that you would lose out from the experience of marriage (because, as I indicated, the research shows that you would live a longer life for having gotten married....unless your wife kills you) but because I would not inflict your negativity on someone else. It seems that you are better suited for a life of visiting prostitutes and living alone. In fact, perhaps you should take up prostitution as a profession yourself. You might be very happy in that line of work.
Good luck!
Why should caliph Umar stop people from temporary marriage, for what reason. What actually happened as at then?
There is a hadith that said ';what is halal during Prophet is halal till the end of the world and as well what is haram will remain haram till the end of the world also. So, what reason has he to ulter what God has decreed to his servants?Why should caliph Umar stop people from temporary marriage, for what reason. What actually happened as at then?
hadiths are just additions to the koran and written by men such as Blair.bush. It is unlikely that in 1600 years we'll still be following Blair's/Bushe's rules so can't get why hadiths are still followedWhy should caliph Umar stop people from temporary marriage, for what reason. What actually happened as at then?
Why ask if you already know the answer? You asked for the reason why, and the reason is obviously practicality.
Umar believed that divorce would lead to marriages of convenience concerning money and social status, and this would lead to a fallout from the true reasons of marriage, that of childbearing and veneration of Allah, it is more than likely true that this is exactly what would happen. Often times the hadith can say as it pleases, but it is something practical that causes Law to change and halal become haram. His reasons would have been, at that point, in the interests of God, and should not be considered alterations, so much as practicality.
my friend that is why islam seems so messed up, because people keep doing whatever they fancy. It just isn't clear.
change religion asap.
Dunno am not muslim
didn't get it.
hadiths are just additions to the koran and written by men such as Blair.bush. It is unlikely that in 1600 years we'll still be following Blair's/Bushe's rules so can't get why hadiths are still followedWhy should caliph Umar stop people from temporary marriage, for what reason. What actually happened as at then?
Why ask if you already know the answer? You asked for the reason why, and the reason is obviously practicality.
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Umar believed that divorce would lead to marriages of convenience concerning money and social status, and this would lead to a fallout from the true reasons of marriage, that of childbearing and veneration of Allah, it is more than likely true that this is exactly what would happen. Often times the hadith can say as it pleases, but it is something practical that causes Law to change and halal become haram. His reasons would have been, at that point, in the interests of God, and should not be considered alterations, so much as practicality.
my friend that is why islam seems so messed up, because people keep doing whatever they fancy. It just isn't clear.
change religion asap.
Dunno am not muslim
didn't get it.
Do you sign your Maiden Name on the Marriage Certificate?
I'm getting married in a few weeks and was wondering how i'm going to sign the certificate %26gt;.%26lt;Do you sign your Maiden Name on the Marriage Certificate?
Yes. That's what I did. You can even continue to use your maiden name all thorough the rest of your life if you wish. It's YOUR name. After you are married you can use whatever name you feel comfortable with. You can even hyphenate both your surnames together if you like. :-)Do you sign your Maiden Name on the Marriage Certificate?
It depends on where you live. In my state and county, the name you sign on the actual marriage license is your new official name. It has to be signed on the license before you can go change it at the social security office. And what you sign on the license is your married name. If you want to change it ..you have to get a judge's order to do so.
You sign it with your legal name at the time of signing. Which would be your maiden name, since you can't change your name with out the signed certificate...
Think about it. John Smith married Jane Doe. The only name she can sign is Jane Doe. Signing Jane Smith would mean the wrong people got married...
You sign your maiden name when you apply for the license and you sign your married name when the official has you sign it after the ceremony.
Sign it with his name, unless you're keeping your maiden name.
Yes, because getting married doesn't automatically change your name. You have to apply for a new license, SS card etc before your name change is complete.
Hold on, do you mean the marriage license?? Cause then it would be yes, when you are officially married you will sign your new last name..
maybe...MUHAHAHAHAHAAHAH!!!!!!
yes because you're name's not legally changed, until you change it.
sign your maiden name. until you change it.
Yes. That's what I did. You can even continue to use your maiden name all thorough the rest of your life if you wish. It's YOUR name. After you are married you can use whatever name you feel comfortable with. You can even hyphenate both your surnames together if you like. :-)Do you sign your Maiden Name on the Marriage Certificate?
It depends on where you live. In my state and county, the name you sign on the actual marriage license is your new official name. It has to be signed on the license before you can go change it at the social security office. And what you sign on the license is your married name. If you want to change it ..you have to get a judge's order to do so.
You sign it with your legal name at the time of signing. Which would be your maiden name, since you can't change your name with out the signed certificate...
Think about it. John Smith married Jane Doe. The only name she can sign is Jane Doe. Signing Jane Smith would mean the wrong people got married...
You sign your maiden name when you apply for the license and you sign your married name when the official has you sign it after the ceremony.
Sign it with his name, unless you're keeping your maiden name.
Yes, because getting married doesn't automatically change your name. You have to apply for a new license, SS card etc before your name change is complete.
Hold on, do you mean the marriage license?? Cause then it would be yes, when you are officially married you will sign your new last name..
maybe...MUHAHAHAHAHAAHAH!!!!!!
yes because you're name's not legally changed, until you change it.
sign your maiden name. until you change it.
Since I take my relationships with men so seriously, should I avoid any dating until marriage?
Inside, i'm a serious, deep, intense person and I take life seriously. That's my personality as it is now. I take relationships seriously as well. It's hard for me to casually date someone, especially if I'm really interested in a guy and he's not on the same page I am. If I go out with someone, it's very likely that I'll want to see him again. If he doesn't want to, I respect that, but I can't help feeling hurt. What's the best way for a person like me to date?Since I take my relationships with men so seriously, should I avoid any dating until marriage?
You do realize that, doing what your question states is impossible. You have to date to find the person you are going to marry. The person you are going to marry doesn't just show up at your door one day.
Best bet is to just find a guy interested in the same things as you. Take it from there. How can you not ';casually'; date someone? What do you mean by ';serious'; dating? If I were to take you to a movie, and a dinner - is that to casual? What, are you looking for a guy to take you out in your ';little black dress'; every night? Some dates are small, some dates are big. Some times a walk threw the park or morning breakfast at the quickest place in town is a date. Ease up on your ';standards'; for a boyfriend. I mean, no guy wants to have to work all the time to please his girl. It seems that is what you are. No offense by all means, but you got to help out in a relationship to make it work for you both.Since I take my relationships with men so seriously, should I avoid any dating until marriage?
How can you possibly be serious.
You have to get to know your partner before either of you begin to consider marriage.
That means you need to date. Don't worry about it.
In my experience, he will find you when you least expect it.
Just live your life. Work, do the things you enjoy. Maybe join a church group,
I think you have some growing up to do.
Someone like you should take things slow. Preferably you should date guys on the same wavelength as you. Not sure how old you are, but perhaps try older men. Another option is to just go out as friends, so there's no expectation of anything serious, just go with the flow.
You know what you want and there is nothing wrong with that. And yes the dating scene is hard since there tend to be two crowds those who wanna party, and those who wanna settle down. There seems to be no happy medium. Just enjoy your life as it is, and if you stumble across a good thing be smart enough to hold onto it. Remember that just because you may not marry the guy doesn't mean you can't have a meaningful relationship worth investing time in.
You do realize that, doing what your question states is impossible. You have to date to find the person you are going to marry. The person you are going to marry doesn't just show up at your door one day.
Best bet is to just find a guy interested in the same things as you. Take it from there. How can you not ';casually'; date someone? What do you mean by ';serious'; dating? If I were to take you to a movie, and a dinner - is that to casual? What, are you looking for a guy to take you out in your ';little black dress'; every night? Some dates are small, some dates are big. Some times a walk threw the park or morning breakfast at the quickest place in town is a date. Ease up on your ';standards'; for a boyfriend. I mean, no guy wants to have to work all the time to please his girl. It seems that is what you are. No offense by all means, but you got to help out in a relationship to make it work for you both.Since I take my relationships with men so seriously, should I avoid any dating until marriage?
How can you possibly be serious.
You have to get to know your partner before either of you begin to consider marriage.
That means you need to date. Don't worry about it.
In my experience, he will find you when you least expect it.
Just live your life. Work, do the things you enjoy. Maybe join a church group,
I think you have some growing up to do.
Someone like you should take things slow. Preferably you should date guys on the same wavelength as you. Not sure how old you are, but perhaps try older men. Another option is to just go out as friends, so there's no expectation of anything serious, just go with the flow.
You know what you want and there is nothing wrong with that. And yes the dating scene is hard since there tend to be two crowds those who wanna party, and those who wanna settle down. There seems to be no happy medium. Just enjoy your life as it is, and if you stumble across a good thing be smart enough to hold onto it. Remember that just because you may not marry the guy doesn't mean you can't have a meaningful relationship worth investing time in.
Do you sign your Maiden Name on the Marriage Certificate?
I'm getting married in a few weeks and was wondering how i'm going to sign the certificate %26gt;.%26lt;Do you sign your Maiden Name on the Marriage Certificate?
Yes. That's what I did. You can even continue to use your maiden name all thorough the rest of your life if you wish. It's YOUR name. After you are married you can use whatever name you feel comfortable with. You can even hyphenate both your surnames together if you like. :-)Do you sign your Maiden Name on the Marriage Certificate?
It depends on where you live. In my state and county, the name you sign on the actual marriage license is your new official name. It has to be signed on the license before you can go change it at the social security office. And what you sign on the license is your married name. If you want to change it ..you have to get a judge's order to do so.
You sign it with your legal name at the time of signing. Which would be your maiden name, since you can't change your name with out the signed certificate...
Think about it. John Smith married Jane Doe. The only name she can sign is Jane Doe. Signing Jane Smith would mean the wrong people got married...
You sign your maiden name when you apply for the license and you sign your married name when the official has you sign it after the ceremony.
Sign it with his name, unless you're keeping your maiden name.
Yes, because getting married doesn't automatically change your name. You have to apply for a new license, SS card etc before your name change is complete.
Hold on, do you mean the marriage license?? Cause then it would be yes, when you are officially married you will sign your new last name..
maybe...MUHAHAHAHAHAAHAH!!!!!!
yes because you're name's not legally changed, until you change it.
sign your maiden name. until you change it.
Yes. That's what I did. You can even continue to use your maiden name all thorough the rest of your life if you wish. It's YOUR name. After you are married you can use whatever name you feel comfortable with. You can even hyphenate both your surnames together if you like. :-)Do you sign your Maiden Name on the Marriage Certificate?
It depends on where you live. In my state and county, the name you sign on the actual marriage license is your new official name. It has to be signed on the license before you can go change it at the social security office. And what you sign on the license is your married name. If you want to change it ..you have to get a judge's order to do so.
You sign it with your legal name at the time of signing. Which would be your maiden name, since you can't change your name with out the signed certificate...
Think about it. John Smith married Jane Doe. The only name she can sign is Jane Doe. Signing Jane Smith would mean the wrong people got married...
You sign your maiden name when you apply for the license and you sign your married name when the official has you sign it after the ceremony.
Sign it with his name, unless you're keeping your maiden name.
Yes, because getting married doesn't automatically change your name. You have to apply for a new license, SS card etc before your name change is complete.
Hold on, do you mean the marriage license?? Cause then it would be yes, when you are officially married you will sign your new last name..
maybe...MUHAHAHAHAHAAHAH!!!!!!
yes because you're name's not legally changed, until you change it.
sign your maiden name. until you change it.
Has marriage become so meaningless that anyone could marry anything?
Marriage should be between a man and a woman. If two dudes or two dykes want to be together that's fine, but they shouldn't be joined leagally in an unholy holy ceremony at a church.Has marriage become so meaningless that anyone could marry anything?
Customs that have been working well for thousands of years suddenly are thought to need changing. Not only marriage, but what constitutes a family is being questioned. It it ain't broke don't fix it and quite trying to get everyone to embrace their new age ideas. By the way I agree with you.Has marriage become so meaningless that anyone could marry anything?
At its core, marriage is just a very very formal contract. Its legal purpose is for legitimacy of offspring, common ownership of property, and to insure intestate succession. Religious marriage (which is also a contract, but not civilly recognized) should not be confused with a legal civil marriage.
The rules have changed considerably over the centuries. Many marriages were once arranged and the parties never even lived together. Then there is common law marriage, where they live together, but do not formalize it with a legal document.
At one time, marriage was denied to any couple which could not produce children, whether due to age, sterility or physical infirmity. They also denied it to couples of different races and religions and in many countries they still do.
If you are legally capable of making a contract, you should be able to marry, but I don't know why homosexual couples should care if they call it a civil union, as long as it has the same legal effect. It took centuries to develop these laws and they can't be expected to be changed overnight.
OOOOOKaaaay.....
For one thing, this debate is about legal recognition of marriage, not church recognition of marriage. Several religions are already happily marrying gay couples.
For another thing, it is good to see SOMEONE is enthusiastic about the institution of marriage. I think the large numbers young teens who pop out kids and say they aren't ';ready for marriage'; are much more of a threat to the institution than the handful of gay couples.
Go yell at Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie.
The wont have to by married at a church. The law can not compel a church to marry them. They can get married by a justice of the peace or a notary. Will it hurt you if the two dudes and two dykes get married?
Straight people are what made marriage meaningless. 50% divorce rate. How holy of us.
Marriage is done by the state, by the way. A marriage in a church without a license isn't a marriage.
That would be for the church to decide. I for one fail to see why anyone at all, straight or gay, cares for the approval of an outdated institution based on a Bronze Age myth.
Marriage isn't about love or meaning. It is about protecting the children and the home carer from being abandoned. If anything, we should be making marriage more stringent,
I don't see how that makes marriage meaningless. As long as it's still about love, it has meaning.
i think we can say that once interspecies relationships are legallipstick kiss
Customs that have been working well for thousands of years suddenly are thought to need changing. Not only marriage, but what constitutes a family is being questioned. It it ain't broke don't fix it and quite trying to get everyone to embrace their new age ideas. By the way I agree with you.Has marriage become so meaningless that anyone could marry anything?
At its core, marriage is just a very very formal contract. Its legal purpose is for legitimacy of offspring, common ownership of property, and to insure intestate succession. Religious marriage (which is also a contract, but not civilly recognized) should not be confused with a legal civil marriage.
The rules have changed considerably over the centuries. Many marriages were once arranged and the parties never even lived together. Then there is common law marriage, where they live together, but do not formalize it with a legal document.
At one time, marriage was denied to any couple which could not produce children, whether due to age, sterility or physical infirmity. They also denied it to couples of different races and religions and in many countries they still do.
If you are legally capable of making a contract, you should be able to marry, but I don't know why homosexual couples should care if they call it a civil union, as long as it has the same legal effect. It took centuries to develop these laws and they can't be expected to be changed overnight.
OOOOOKaaaay.....
For one thing, this debate is about legal recognition of marriage, not church recognition of marriage. Several religions are already happily marrying gay couples.
For another thing, it is good to see SOMEONE is enthusiastic about the institution of marriage. I think the large numbers young teens who pop out kids and say they aren't ';ready for marriage'; are much more of a threat to the institution than the handful of gay couples.
Go yell at Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie.
The wont have to by married at a church. The law can not compel a church to marry them. They can get married by a justice of the peace or a notary. Will it hurt you if the two dudes and two dykes get married?
Straight people are what made marriage meaningless. 50% divorce rate. How holy of us.
Marriage is done by the state, by the way. A marriage in a church without a license isn't a marriage.
That would be for the church to decide. I for one fail to see why anyone at all, straight or gay, cares for the approval of an outdated institution based on a Bronze Age myth.
Marriage isn't about love or meaning. It is about protecting the children and the home carer from being abandoned. If anything, we should be making marriage more stringent,
I don't see how that makes marriage meaningless. As long as it's still about love, it has meaning.
i think we can say that once interspecies relationships are legal
Is marriage a necessary sacrifice of individual freedom for the sake of a healthy society & future generation?
Is marriage necessary? Is individual freedom compromised? Is it necessary so that the society would be sane and healthy? Is it necessary to ensure a healthy future generation? Is this why a married person is considered a more responsible, dependable and respectable member of the society?Is marriage a necessary sacrifice of individual freedom for the sake of a healthy society %26amp; future generation?
Yeah, for me marriage is necessary. But i will not call it a sacrifice, but instead, marriage is a sacred vow and a pure joy of two combined people who are trully in love with each other and who will surely make this society and future generation more healthy coz they are happy to find each other in this superficial and lonely world...Is marriage a necessary sacrifice of individual freedom for the sake of a healthy society %26amp; future generation?
Eh. Marriage is all a part of the economy. Married couples are encouraged to produce offspring. The offspring will go to school, probably to college, get a job, pay taxes, and essentially pay more money in general. I don't feel a marriage is neccessary to have a healthy and devoted relationship, it's just the social norm/expectancy.
small,
not if the people see it as a sacrafice of individual freedom.
its supposed to be the union of two people that love one another that want to spend their lives together.
no, i dont belive individual freedom is comprimised.
no, its not necessary, but sweet.
of coarse its necessary to ensure a healthy future generation.
the only reason married people are assumed to be more responsible, dependable and respectable is because they have to worry about the well being of themselves and their family.
hope this answers your uestion
It's a cultural construct and was originally a legal contract. It isn't necessary now except for certain legal rights.
Marriage isn't a sacrifice of freedom, it's a sacrifice of the chance for men to spread their genes beyond their ability to care for children and it's a sacrifice of the chance for women to find a richer guy. And you thought you were cynical saying it's a sacrifice of freedom! ;-)
Anyways, marriage is a social contract that (traditionally) signifies you are a grownup, a Somebody in your family (whether you are male or female, it has always been so)... you count, in the sense that you provide for others (traditionally the man) and/or you parent children. Marriage is a big status change because a married person is, generally %26amp; traditionally speaking, a *responsible* member of the society. A married person accepts responsibility to/for others, represents a family, and thus should be mature enough to honor a commitment and give of him/herself. That's why married people are subtly senior in social status. It's only a sacrifice if you're not mature enough and not ready, and value some kind of ';individual freedom'; to hoard your own goods and be sexually promiscuous forever, over social connections.
I don't really think that marrieds are necessarily more responsible, I just think that psychologically we assume they must be, and there is a HUGE social / psychological importance we instinctively attach to parenthood (and getting married is, symbolically, becoming a member of the ';parent'; generation). Long-term monogamy is, in those cultures where resources are plentiful and monogamy is to the advantage of both sexes, simply the best way to pool resources fairly for the good of the next generation. It's not necessarily the only way to ensure a stable society.
Of course, in the society I live in, all this is purely academic, because resources are so haphazardly and unfairly distributed to begin with...
Definitely yes
No.
No...I certainly don't believe that marriage is a necessary institution. But as a person who married...for the first time...at the age of 42, I can tell you that - if its right - is provides greater freedom, confidence and happiness.
When I was a young girl, like others, I dreamed about my wedding. And being married. It was like a badge of honour, I suppose. And it would make me mature, responsible and all those things you mention. As I got older, I saw nothing but unhappiness coming from the marriages of my friends. And it turned me off the whole thing. I didn't want to become a statistic and, as I didn't want children, I didn't see the necessity. When I met my now husband, though, those feelings changed. Living with him wasn't enough...I wanted to be married to him. To take his name. And it has not compromised my individual freedom - in fact, it has given me more.
In the past, it was a sacrifice (of the bride's individual freedom). Now it seems to be just a pretext to have a big party (and expose the parent's health) ... then divorce!
I believe marriage does keep order in society. That way peoplea ren't running around having babies, but feel a sense of responsibility to the people they procreate with and the offspring they have.
Moreover, I believe you can be in love with one person enough to only want to be with him/her for the rest of your life.
I don't know about the current society, but I do believe the word ';necessary'; wouldn't fit for the assumption...
In history, I assume, marriage began when there was a government... So, if we don't have government, we probably wouldn't have marriage.
And if we are to continuity thinking about this thought, we would later understand, there was government because there was trade... And there was trade because of Chinese people...(or not)
Blame it all to them..(if not)
i believe that marriage will take away your freedom that is why i will not married till i am 25 so i can have more fun and be serious later
The social value of commitment is not that it restricts our individual freedom, but that it empowers us as individuals by providing meaningful structure in our lives. Without such structure, individual freedom itself has no real meaning. But marriage is not just about commitment, in fact it is not even primarily about commitment. Marriage is a social institution historically rooted in the desire of men to control female sexuality. Men wanted to pass wealth and social privilege through their biological offspring, but in order to do this they needed to be sure who their true biological children were. Thus women became resources 鈥?essentially containers in which to plant seeds so that men can perpetuate their gene line. Thus, like any valuable resource, women became property. (If there is gold lying around, and it is perceived as valuable, you can be sure that someone will want to acquire power and privilege by owning it.) Marriage was a means to transfer and acquire property, as well as a means to forge social/political ties.
Nowadays women are not technically considered to be property in the old sense, but we do still retain some of the old psychology that has been passed down through the ages. Both men and women tend to be ';possessive'; of their lovers, and although we don't explicitly talk in these terms very much any more, men do still want to be sure who their biological children are, and so there are still deep social motivations to control female sexuality. In general we are still more offended by sexually adventurous women (we call them a variety of unflattering names), and most modern marriages still include the father of the bride ';giving away'; his daughter. This is also why (mostly unconsciously) so many people are so rabidly opposed to gay marriage and other alternative lifestyles. The implicit meanings of marriage are imbedded deep in our social psyche, and notions like gay marriage and polyamory force a radical paradigm shift that most people find uncomfortable.
So is marriage necessary? No, not really, but we are products of our history, and we tend not to be conscious of our deeper motivations in life, thus many ancient social patterns continue to get passed on from one generation to the next, despite our perception of ourselves as being totally modern and different from those people who lived ages ago. Marriage as the form of institution we know today is not necessary, but I would say that some form of socially-recognized celebration of commitment to live in cooperative community (aka ';family'; of some sort) is socially and spiritually valuable. Children need stability 鈥?they need to know that they are loved and that the people who love them are committed to being there for them. The traditional nuclear family fueled by the traditional concept of marriage does not actually work very well. It is not natural, nor is it realistic, thus way too many children end up in stressful circumstances 鈥?domestic abuse, broken homes, etc.
Our concepts of commitment and family need to change. Prior to the nuclear family model, we had extended families. These tended to work somewhat better (although they were still burdened by the traditional expectations of monogamous marriage), and I suggest that we start thinking in more extended-family terms. But the concept of ';family'; should not be artificially limited by the notions of traditional monogamous marriage. A family should be any group of people who love each other and are committed to nurture and support each other for life. Monogamy is fine for those who want it, but it should not be the sole criteria for socially judging the success or social value of people, and it should not be the only form of loving commitment that we publicly acknowledge and celebrate. Human nature 鈥?like all of nature 鈥?is fundamentally diverse. Our traditional emphasis on heterosexual monogamous marriage attempts to force everyone into the same box, and this is simply not a socially healthy thing to do. We owe it to ourselves, and to future generations to think outside the box, live consciously, and focus on letting people explore their own paths in life, rather than insisting that they all follow a certain particular officially sanctioned path.
In the human experience there has been a relationship between a man and woman primarily one of each and lasting until one partner has died. No, this relationship is not necessary for a stable society. One has only look at Islamic nations to see a different form of marriage that has resulted in a stable society.
One may submit that the Native Americans had stable societies with differing forms of adult relationships. I suspect that you might be inferring to the lower insurance, tax rates and other finanical benefits accorded to married folk. If one examines the makeup of US familes, one sees that now the majority are single parent homes. I neither support or am against the traditional marriage. It seems sad to me that many children do not have the male and female parent role model.That being said, one good parent might be better for the child than two bad parents. See the articles linked below.
Marriage has existed in some form or fashion in every society in recorded human history. It is natural to our species. Many feminist texts assert that marriage was created by men as a means of controlling women and offspring, but consider the effort it takes to raise a human child, as opposed to less developed primates. Can a newborn human cling to it's mother's body while she scavenges for food? Can it get up and follow her around, or be left alone for long periods of time? And how long does it take a human to become independant? One year? Maybe two?
Yeah right.
Without the constructs of modern society, human children are highly dependant on their mothers. The child's level of dependance would have made it nearly impossible for a mother to ensure survival for herself and her child without outside help. And that big hairy guy who fathered the child fit the bill.
Now I sound like a chauvanist, but honestly, if we women were as stupid as some feminist texts make us out to be, the human race would have died out long ago. Is marriage necessary? Maybe not for survival nowadays, but if you look at the statistics, children who grow up in a home with their married biological parents are FAR better off than children in any other living situation. Argue all you want--the numbers speak for themselves.
Probably yes, to all of your questions. Society uses marriage as a part of social structure, but it has existed regardless of its mere use to society at large. I think many people find it a a meaningful and pleasant way to live with one another. Otherwise it would not be so prevalent in every culture in every time period. No one has to force people to marry just to ensure that society is upheld. They're going to do it anyway. It's a cause of social structure, not an effect.
I have not married and will never marry. It is merely one more way that priests, kings, etc. control the peasants. Whoever has wife and kids has given hostages to fortune, it is said. As a single man, I can leave a job at once if supervisors are unfair, but if I had a family, I'd not be able to leave until I had another job. I am not religious, so no priest can tell me that he must sanction my relationships with women. Neither priests nor kings rule me through marriage. It is unr33ealistic to make a vbow to stay with someone the rest of your life. My sisters have been married three times apiece. I take vows too seriously to make them thrice in such manner.
Yeah, for me marriage is necessary. But i will not call it a sacrifice, but instead, marriage is a sacred vow and a pure joy of two combined people who are trully in love with each other and who will surely make this society and future generation more healthy coz they are happy to find each other in this superficial and lonely world...Is marriage a necessary sacrifice of individual freedom for the sake of a healthy society %26amp; future generation?
Eh. Marriage is all a part of the economy. Married couples are encouraged to produce offspring. The offspring will go to school, probably to college, get a job, pay taxes, and essentially pay more money in general. I don't feel a marriage is neccessary to have a healthy and devoted relationship, it's just the social norm/expectancy.
small,
not if the people see it as a sacrafice of individual freedom.
its supposed to be the union of two people that love one another that want to spend their lives together.
no, i dont belive individual freedom is comprimised.
no, its not necessary, but sweet.
of coarse its necessary to ensure a healthy future generation.
the only reason married people are assumed to be more responsible, dependable and respectable is because they have to worry about the well being of themselves and their family.
hope this answers your uestion
It's a cultural construct and was originally a legal contract. It isn't necessary now except for certain legal rights.
Marriage isn't a sacrifice of freedom, it's a sacrifice of the chance for men to spread their genes beyond their ability to care for children and it's a sacrifice of the chance for women to find a richer guy. And you thought you were cynical saying it's a sacrifice of freedom! ;-)
Anyways, marriage is a social contract that (traditionally) signifies you are a grownup, a Somebody in your family (whether you are male or female, it has always been so)... you count, in the sense that you provide for others (traditionally the man) and/or you parent children. Marriage is a big status change because a married person is, generally %26amp; traditionally speaking, a *responsible* member of the society. A married person accepts responsibility to/for others, represents a family, and thus should be mature enough to honor a commitment and give of him/herself. That's why married people are subtly senior in social status. It's only a sacrifice if you're not mature enough and not ready, and value some kind of ';individual freedom'; to hoard your own goods and be sexually promiscuous forever, over social connections.
I don't really think that marrieds are necessarily more responsible, I just think that psychologically we assume they must be, and there is a HUGE social / psychological importance we instinctively attach to parenthood (and getting married is, symbolically, becoming a member of the ';parent'; generation). Long-term monogamy is, in those cultures where resources are plentiful and monogamy is to the advantage of both sexes, simply the best way to pool resources fairly for the good of the next generation. It's not necessarily the only way to ensure a stable society.
Of course, in the society I live in, all this is purely academic, because resources are so haphazardly and unfairly distributed to begin with...
Definitely yes
No.
No...I certainly don't believe that marriage is a necessary institution. But as a person who married...for the first time...at the age of 42, I can tell you that - if its right - is provides greater freedom, confidence and happiness.
When I was a young girl, like others, I dreamed about my wedding. And being married. It was like a badge of honour, I suppose. And it would make me mature, responsible and all those things you mention. As I got older, I saw nothing but unhappiness coming from the marriages of my friends. And it turned me off the whole thing. I didn't want to become a statistic and, as I didn't want children, I didn't see the necessity. When I met my now husband, though, those feelings changed. Living with him wasn't enough...I wanted to be married to him. To take his name. And it has not compromised my individual freedom - in fact, it has given me more.
In the past, it was a sacrifice (of the bride's individual freedom). Now it seems to be just a pretext to have a big party (and expose the parent's health) ... then divorce!
I believe marriage does keep order in society. That way peoplea ren't running around having babies, but feel a sense of responsibility to the people they procreate with and the offspring they have.
Moreover, I believe you can be in love with one person enough to only want to be with him/her for the rest of your life.
I don't know about the current society, but I do believe the word ';necessary'; wouldn't fit for the assumption...
In history, I assume, marriage began when there was a government... So, if we don't have government, we probably wouldn't have marriage.
And if we are to continuity thinking about this thought, we would later understand, there was government because there was trade... And there was trade because of Chinese people...(or not)
Blame it all to them..(if not)
i believe that marriage will take away your freedom that is why i will not married till i am 25 so i can have more fun and be serious later
The social value of commitment is not that it restricts our individual freedom, but that it empowers us as individuals by providing meaningful structure in our lives. Without such structure, individual freedom itself has no real meaning. But marriage is not just about commitment, in fact it is not even primarily about commitment. Marriage is a social institution historically rooted in the desire of men to control female sexuality. Men wanted to pass wealth and social privilege through their biological offspring, but in order to do this they needed to be sure who their true biological children were. Thus women became resources 鈥?essentially containers in which to plant seeds so that men can perpetuate their gene line. Thus, like any valuable resource, women became property. (If there is gold lying around, and it is perceived as valuable, you can be sure that someone will want to acquire power and privilege by owning it.) Marriage was a means to transfer and acquire property, as well as a means to forge social/political ties.
Nowadays women are not technically considered to be property in the old sense, but we do still retain some of the old psychology that has been passed down through the ages. Both men and women tend to be ';possessive'; of their lovers, and although we don't explicitly talk in these terms very much any more, men do still want to be sure who their biological children are, and so there are still deep social motivations to control female sexuality. In general we are still more offended by sexually adventurous women (we call them a variety of unflattering names), and most modern marriages still include the father of the bride ';giving away'; his daughter. This is also why (mostly unconsciously) so many people are so rabidly opposed to gay marriage and other alternative lifestyles. The implicit meanings of marriage are imbedded deep in our social psyche, and notions like gay marriage and polyamory force a radical paradigm shift that most people find uncomfortable.
So is marriage necessary? No, not really, but we are products of our history, and we tend not to be conscious of our deeper motivations in life, thus many ancient social patterns continue to get passed on from one generation to the next, despite our perception of ourselves as being totally modern and different from those people who lived ages ago. Marriage as the form of institution we know today is not necessary, but I would say that some form of socially-recognized celebration of commitment to live in cooperative community (aka ';family'; of some sort) is socially and spiritually valuable. Children need stability 鈥?they need to know that they are loved and that the people who love them are committed to being there for them. The traditional nuclear family fueled by the traditional concept of marriage does not actually work very well. It is not natural, nor is it realistic, thus way too many children end up in stressful circumstances 鈥?domestic abuse, broken homes, etc.
Our concepts of commitment and family need to change. Prior to the nuclear family model, we had extended families. These tended to work somewhat better (although they were still burdened by the traditional expectations of monogamous marriage), and I suggest that we start thinking in more extended-family terms. But the concept of ';family'; should not be artificially limited by the notions of traditional monogamous marriage. A family should be any group of people who love each other and are committed to nurture and support each other for life. Monogamy is fine for those who want it, but it should not be the sole criteria for socially judging the success or social value of people, and it should not be the only form of loving commitment that we publicly acknowledge and celebrate. Human nature 鈥?like all of nature 鈥?is fundamentally diverse. Our traditional emphasis on heterosexual monogamous marriage attempts to force everyone into the same box, and this is simply not a socially healthy thing to do. We owe it to ourselves, and to future generations to think outside the box, live consciously, and focus on letting people explore their own paths in life, rather than insisting that they all follow a certain particular officially sanctioned path.
In the human experience there has been a relationship between a man and woman primarily one of each and lasting until one partner has died. No, this relationship is not necessary for a stable society. One has only look at Islamic nations to see a different form of marriage that has resulted in a stable society.
One may submit that the Native Americans had stable societies with differing forms of adult relationships. I suspect that you might be inferring to the lower insurance, tax rates and other finanical benefits accorded to married folk. If one examines the makeup of US familes, one sees that now the majority are single parent homes. I neither support or am against the traditional marriage. It seems sad to me that many children do not have the male and female parent role model.That being said, one good parent might be better for the child than two bad parents. See the articles linked below.
Marriage has existed in some form or fashion in every society in recorded human history. It is natural to our species. Many feminist texts assert that marriage was created by men as a means of controlling women and offspring, but consider the effort it takes to raise a human child, as opposed to less developed primates. Can a newborn human cling to it's mother's body while she scavenges for food? Can it get up and follow her around, or be left alone for long periods of time? And how long does it take a human to become independant? One year? Maybe two?
Yeah right.
Without the constructs of modern society, human children are highly dependant on their mothers. The child's level of dependance would have made it nearly impossible for a mother to ensure survival for herself and her child without outside help. And that big hairy guy who fathered the child fit the bill.
Now I sound like a chauvanist, but honestly, if we women were as stupid as some feminist texts make us out to be, the human race would have died out long ago. Is marriage necessary? Maybe not for survival nowadays, but if you look at the statistics, children who grow up in a home with their married biological parents are FAR better off than children in any other living situation. Argue all you want--the numbers speak for themselves.
Probably yes, to all of your questions. Society uses marriage as a part of social structure, but it has existed regardless of its mere use to society at large. I think many people find it a a meaningful and pleasant way to live with one another. Otherwise it would not be so prevalent in every culture in every time period. No one has to force people to marry just to ensure that society is upheld. They're going to do it anyway. It's a cause of social structure, not an effect.
I have not married and will never marry. It is merely one more way that priests, kings, etc. control the peasants. Whoever has wife and kids has given hostages to fortune, it is said. As a single man, I can leave a job at once if supervisors are unfair, but if I had a family, I'd not be able to leave until I had another job. I am not religious, so no priest can tell me that he must sanction my relationships with women. Neither priests nor kings rule me through marriage. It is unr33ealistic to make a vbow to stay with someone the rest of your life. My sisters have been married three times apiece. I take vows too seriously to make them thrice in such manner.
What is a creative way to say ';Yes';, [marriage]?
I have been recieving MANY hints lately that my darling significant other is going to ask me to marry him! Of course if he is, I am going to say 'Yes'. But I don't just want to say 'Yes', I want to say it in a creative way that we'll both remember. I could probably think of something on my own, but I'd LOVE to other people's ideas! Thank you!What is a creative way to say ';Yes';, [marriage]?
He will already be sweating over a romantic way to propose to you! Put him outta his misery and just say yes. After all, it's the summation of what you want to say.
(the creative part comes later, with wedding vows)What is a creative way to say ';Yes';, [marriage]?
I'm not too creative, but I'd probably just be like ';Wake up to you every morning? Give you my heart? Love you forever? Hmmmm *acts like I'm thinking*... Well..... Of course :D';
lmao I'm so not original/
e-mail him...let him open the e-mail when the two of u are together...
get a tattoo that says yes
take time to think and then do the thing that you feel good with. Lets wish for the best.
oh barf
He will already be sweating over a romantic way to propose to you! Put him outta his misery and just say yes. After all, it's the summation of what you want to say.
(the creative part comes later, with wedding vows)What is a creative way to say ';Yes';, [marriage]?
I'm not too creative, but I'd probably just be like ';Wake up to you every morning? Give you my heart? Love you forever? Hmmmm *acts like I'm thinking*... Well..... Of course :D';
lmao I'm so not original/
e-mail him...let him open the e-mail when the two of u are together...
get a tattoo that says yes
take time to think and then do the thing that you feel good with. Lets wish for the best.
oh barf
My husband and I started a buisness and now we are having problems with our marriage?
We started our business about a year ago. And now the issue is that he overworks himself and we dont have time for ourselves. I think the problem is that he doesnt know how to divide his time, and he says its because we work together so we spend TOO much time together. Is there a book or a video that can help us with this specific thing?My husband and I started a buisness and now we are having problems with our marriage?
There was a time when I was super into a business I started and it's like an obsession to make money and to grow the business. I don't know what the answer is, but just wanted to share that it might be more of an obsession. My husband would get really upset with me too at the time. If he's saying you spend too much time with each other, then maybe you should listen to what he's saying. Is there a way that you guys can work in different areas for a bit so that he misses you more? Can you go out with the girls once in a while to give him some space? Then plan a night for the two of you? If there's any chance he's cheating or thinking of someone else, I wouldn't suggest these things. I'd suggest seeing if your insurance pays to see a psychologist and go together to talk with them. Good Luck, Marriage can be tough.My husband and I started a buisness and now we are having problems with our marriage?
Sorry i don't have a suggestion for a book or video, but i would like to say,
Stress and tension is getting in the way. You both need to not make decisions while all stressed out. You must make time to get away, maybe for a weekend and veg out, relax, enjoy things like you used to.
That special feeling you have for each other is still there, it's just buried under stress.
So do my husband and me (15 years). He, too, overworks, but only because he has most of the skills and knowledge of the type of business we're into. We attend seminars and events together. So we have no problems with our marriage. Also, that depends on the type of business you're into and how you really feel about each other. Not every couple can run a business together. Do you work with him? Do you both have the same skills and knowledge of your business? Do you attend business seminars and events together? You should do that and get more involved so you won't feel left out. Your husband will change his attitude and appreciate your support more.
There was a time when I was super into a business I started and it's like an obsession to make money and to grow the business. I don't know what the answer is, but just wanted to share that it might be more of an obsession. My husband would get really upset with me too at the time. If he's saying you spend too much time with each other, then maybe you should listen to what he's saying. Is there a way that you guys can work in different areas for a bit so that he misses you more? Can you go out with the girls once in a while to give him some space? Then plan a night for the two of you? If there's any chance he's cheating or thinking of someone else, I wouldn't suggest these things. I'd suggest seeing if your insurance pays to see a psychologist and go together to talk with them. Good Luck, Marriage can be tough.My husband and I started a buisness and now we are having problems with our marriage?
Sorry i don't have a suggestion for a book or video, but i would like to say,
Stress and tension is getting in the way. You both need to not make decisions while all stressed out. You must make time to get away, maybe for a weekend and veg out, relax, enjoy things like you used to.
That special feeling you have for each other is still there, it's just buried under stress.
So do my husband and me (15 years). He, too, overworks, but only because he has most of the skills and knowledge of the type of business we're into. We attend seminars and events together. So we have no problems with our marriage. Also, that depends on the type of business you're into and how you really feel about each other. Not every couple can run a business together. Do you work with him? Do you both have the same skills and knowledge of your business? Do you attend business seminars and events together? You should do that and get more involved so you won't feel left out. Your husband will change his attitude and appreciate your support more.
Who Can I Find To Perform a Simple Marriage Ceremony Near Dixon, CA on Tuesday, October 21st?
... And that about sums it up. ._. Really, I don't want a wedding, I just want to get married on the 21st.Who Can I Find To Perform a Simple Marriage Ceremony Near Dixon, CA on Tuesday, October 21st?
Check with City Hall to find out
a) What do you need to do to get a wedding license
b) Is there a city official who performs civil ceremonies and where?
c) You're so close to Sacramento you should enquire if the Governor can and will officiate at your wedding.
d) Search for ';wedding officiant'; for your area.
October 21 is a Tuesday, so if someone performs ceremonies at City Hall it should be just another business day for them.
By the way my daughter's first anniversary is the 20th. She got married in San Diego, found an ';officiant'; but did want a big deal. Oh well.
Check with City Hall to find out
a) What do you need to do to get a wedding license
b) Is there a city official who performs civil ceremonies and where?
c) You're so close to Sacramento you should enquire if the Governor can and will officiate at your wedding.
d) Search for ';wedding officiant'; for your area.
October 21 is a Tuesday, so if someone performs ceremonies at City Hall it should be just another business day for them.
By the way my daughter's first anniversary is the 20th. She got married in San Diego, found an ';officiant'; but did want a big deal. Oh well.
What do you think about the ';sanctity'; of marriage?
People are always bashing the idea of same-sex marriage, saying that marriage is a sacred union between a man and a woman. End of discussion. Yet if marriage is this ideal of perfect and forever bond, why is it that divorce is still allowed and at such a high rate? There are millions of people who are married two or more times. Honestly, marriage should be an option for anyone, regardless of their sexual orientation. It doesn't have to take place in a church where I do understand and respect a person's religion. But everyone is entitled to their piece of happiness and people like Republican presidential contender Mitt Romney should stop trying to please the conservative portion of our nation. We are living in a new and modern world, where so much more is now acceptable compared to 100 years ago. What do you think?What do you think about the ';sanctity'; of marriage?
Ideas like ';sacred'; and ';sanctity'; are clearly religious concepts and therefore have no business being enforced by the law. Policies which do not allow same-sex couples to marry are blatantly discriminating on the basis of gender, and thus violate the Constitutional principal of granting all citizens equal protection under the law regardless of their sex. On a legal level, marriage is simply a type of contract between two people to equally share their property, and the government should just butt out of it. Nobody has the right to tell any consenting adults who they can or cannot form a contract with, and there's no evidence whatsoever that two gay people would be any less caring or loving towards children. On the contrary, heterosexual couples are the ones with the poor track record for child abuse. I've seen some conservatives argue that gays shouldn't be allowed to marry because they can't produce children. But using that logic, we shouldn't allow heterosexual couples to marry either if any of them is sterile. And it's pretty obvious that the human race isn't going to become extinct just because some people choose not to breed. There are MANY children out there waiting to be adopted and put into good homes, so gay couples can provide a needed service that way. Gays are not looking for ';special treatment';, as religious-types claim. They just want the same rights everybody else has, nothing more and nothing less.What do you think about the ';sanctity'; of marriage?
I believe in the sanctity of marriage? People bash same-sex-marriage because it is wrong. If you read the scriptures; you would KNOW that this is wrong.
People have been cramming the new and modern world down peoples throats for years and we still have the same LORD GOD, who is the SAME YESTERDAY, TODAY and FOREVER. He got things going and He makes the rules. You either choose to live by them or you don't. The modern world doesn't change him. A fickle changing world we are worn out with. We need stability and God provides it.
Marriage laws should stay the same. There is no reason to change the laws just for an extremely small percentage of the population. And people of the U.S. want marriage to be between a man and a woman.
One of the biggest problems facing America is the growing number of people getting pregnant out of wedlock. That is number one source of social decay in our cities.
75% of welfare goes to single parents
';three quarters of this aid flows to single parent families.Children raised without a father in the home are more likely to experience: emotional and behavioral problems, school failure; drug and alcohol abuse, crime, and incarceration.The beneficial effects of marriage on individuals and society are beyond reasonable dispute, and there is a broad and growing consensus that government policy should promote rather than discourage healthy marriage.'; http://www.heritage.org/Research/Welfare鈥?/a>
Recently, voters the Commonwealth of Virginia voted to restrict the rights of same-sex couples. Less than one week later, out comes a story of a phony marriage scandal in which immigrants whose visas were about to expire would marry citizens long enough to get their green card or residency and then divorce. The citizen would get paid to take part in a sham marriage. It was easy in Virginia because there are no waiting periods (and, I later found out, no residency requirement either)
I'm sure there are other places in the country where sham marriages go on because it's easy to get married and not too hard to get divorced either.
Or how about Twitney Spears' 55-hour spur-of-the-moment marriage to a friend?
There are far greater threats to the sanctity of marriage than allowing two men or two women to set up housekeeping and file a joint tax return.
';One of the biggest problems facing America is the growing number of people getting pregnant out of wedlock.';
this is one of Americas biggest problems how exactly?? I feel like if the middle class wasn't dissapearing longer work weeks etc that this growing number would be a decreasing number.
to your question... you're absolutely correct however we've got a big christian population in the US which are easy votes to get as long as you don't upset their views. Do you honestly believe these people are religious men? Look at some of the things they've been convicted of recently. A senator just resigned because he tried to solicit sex from a male undercover police officer in an airport bathroom. Yet I guarantee he stated he believed in these ideals as well.
Let me repeat that in case you weren't listening one of the top 1000 or so influencial men in the US was convicted of soliciting sex from a male undercover police officer in an airport bathroom, how sad.
';75% of welfare goes to single parents';
ok this is your argument why it's bad... to counter I say this the reason these people can't get married and raise a normal family is because of how poor they are not because they're born out of wedlock. ok say there single parents got married do you honestly believe that those two poor people will combine to produce a good environment, it's not the people it's the lack of money. Fix the economy, and society will fix itself, do you think these people wanted to become poor single parents? It happens due to economic and social pressures. Also look up children who grow up poor vs children w/out a father you'll find strangely similar statistics. Also look up statistics of wealthy single parents vs poor single parents I think you'll find that the single parent in the equation isn't the sole problem.
The word ';sacred'; should be the first thing you noticed. Then you should see the word ';marriage';. Words are important. You seem to be an intelligent, open minded individual. Why, then, have you not taken the time to study these two words? I am serious here, you say that you respect a persons religion, and that you understand (presumably the importance of religion to any given person). Sacred is a religious term to show the importance and power of certain acts, events, responsibilities or such. Marriage is a religious term for a union between a man and a woman. Only after being used by the general public for the longest of times were these word watered down to what most people think they mean today and therefor use them for when they discuss things. Take marriage for example, look it up in the dictionary and the definition of a union between a man and woman is but one, as it can be used in other situations to mean other things. Just because it has more than one meaning when used differently does not mean that it can be used in the same context to mean something entirely different. And seeing as how it is a religious meaning in this case, to use it in any other context is not only improper, but disrespectful. Perhaps people that have a different sexual preference should show some respect, and some intelligence, and find a word for thier unique unions. I am not trying to be funny, or hurtful, or snide or any of the like, I just find it ludicrous that a group of people that spends so much time and effort to be allowed to be different would insist on trying to be defined by the same words when so many words are available to them. It seems to me that the battle is to be accepted as equals, no more, no less. To insist on insulting a noble old custom is a sure fire way to distract from that battle and make enemies of potential friends. To do as you, and attack the integrity of a custom like marriage as a mean to make it more accessible to others is even more destructive. Your comments on divorce make no point other than what a spoiled child would make in excuse of bad behavior. Lastly, we live in the same world, not a new one. Yes, there will be change, but still the same old human beings on the same old world. Change, for the sake of change, is not progress.
The sanctity of marriage comes from the bible. (';Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.'; Genesis 2:22%26amp;24). Devout Christians/Catholics believe this to be the word of God and live their present day life and make choices in politics based on those beliefs.
Ask anyone from Massachusetts. Romney is a loser.
Men and women can get married because it's easier to run a business.
They don't have to live together, or have even met other than to sign a license.
It takes more preparation to buy a firearm then to get married and divorced.
Yet we want to deny people WHO ACTUALLY LOVE EACH OTHER the same rights.
It's ridiculous.
A new and modern world that is producing a bunch of Fvcked up kids. I believe in the sanctity of marriage and believe it should be a man and a woman. Allowing same sex will lead to people marrying their pets or god know what.
Marriage is between A Man and A Woman.......Period ! If you Bleeding Hearts don't like it, we have a nice plot of land for you to live on. Right in the Middle of the Arabian Desert ! Your Friendly Neighbors will be Hamas on your left and Al Qaida and Hezbollah on your right.
I love watching the conservatives lose. They will certainly lose on the gay marriage thing, just as they lost on interracial marriage in the '60's. The harder conservatives fight, the more fun it is to watch them lose.
It doesn't look like you have much respect for marriage so I say don't do it. And people DO make mistakes, thus divorce. I'm doubting that you are Ms. Perfect.
It is a farce how conservatives claim to support the Constitution. It is the Constitution that supports gay marriage. The same argument that gave African-Americans access to ';white'; schools also supports gay marriage. The Supreme court stated that ';equal but separate'; rights are not at all equal as required in the Constitution. The right to marry is being denied to some people %26amp; no ';civil union'; can change that.
Plus, several in here have mentioned how marriage is a religious act. It may have been hundreds of years ago but not today. Today, marriage is a legal act. If it was religious why is marriage controlled by laws? If it is a religious act, there would be no requirement for a license. If it is a religious act then the Consitution would require the government not interfere due to separation of church %26amp; state.
As for sanctity, come on now! Just look at the studies on how many people stray while married. Affairs are not just for libs either.
I find one of the weakest arguments against gay marriage is how it would weaken straight marriages. This is an argument that speaks so much about a person's inner self %26amp; how they view their own marriage. If your marriage is so weak that it is in peril for the guys down the street to marry then you have problems. If the only thing keeping your straight marriage together is a law banning gay people to marry then perhaps you should not have married in the first place. If you honestly believe that gay marriage will cause your child to become gay then you have no understanding of human nature and you must hold a deep inner fear that your parental abilities are inadequate to properly guide your child. This argument says so much about the person making this claim. Why do you fear your own ';straightness'; so much?
And, if marriage is so great, why would you want to exclude others? Why would you want to discriminate? If your own marriage is a wonderful bonding of souls, why do you want to restrict others from having a similar bond?
Whereas I do not agree marriage is a religious act, I do think most people allow their opinion to be heavily influenced by their religious beliefs. Well, how they want others to believe. How religious they want others to believe they are. They forget some commandments when they are inconvenient. They follow or espouse religion when they wish but do not live a religious life 24/7.
If you wish to truly sanctify marriage then begin with heterosexual marriages before you worry about homosexual marriages.
Ideas like ';sacred'; and ';sanctity'; are clearly religious concepts and therefore have no business being enforced by the law. Policies which do not allow same-sex couples to marry are blatantly discriminating on the basis of gender, and thus violate the Constitutional principal of granting all citizens equal protection under the law regardless of their sex. On a legal level, marriage is simply a type of contract between two people to equally share their property, and the government should just butt out of it. Nobody has the right to tell any consenting adults who they can or cannot form a contract with, and there's no evidence whatsoever that two gay people would be any less caring or loving towards children. On the contrary, heterosexual couples are the ones with the poor track record for child abuse. I've seen some conservatives argue that gays shouldn't be allowed to marry because they can't produce children. But using that logic, we shouldn't allow heterosexual couples to marry either if any of them is sterile. And it's pretty obvious that the human race isn't going to become extinct just because some people choose not to breed. There are MANY children out there waiting to be adopted and put into good homes, so gay couples can provide a needed service that way. Gays are not looking for ';special treatment';, as religious-types claim. They just want the same rights everybody else has, nothing more and nothing less.What do you think about the ';sanctity'; of marriage?
I believe in the sanctity of marriage? People bash same-sex-marriage because it is wrong. If you read the scriptures; you would KNOW that this is wrong.
People have been cramming the new and modern world down peoples throats for years and we still have the same LORD GOD, who is the SAME YESTERDAY, TODAY and FOREVER. He got things going and He makes the rules. You either choose to live by them or you don't. The modern world doesn't change him. A fickle changing world we are worn out with. We need stability and God provides it.
Marriage laws should stay the same. There is no reason to change the laws just for an extremely small percentage of the population. And people of the U.S. want marriage to be between a man and a woman.
One of the biggest problems facing America is the growing number of people getting pregnant out of wedlock. That is number one source of social decay in our cities.
75% of welfare goes to single parents
';three quarters of this aid flows to single parent families.Children raised without a father in the home are more likely to experience: emotional and behavioral problems, school failure; drug and alcohol abuse, crime, and incarceration.The beneficial effects of marriage on individuals and society are beyond reasonable dispute, and there is a broad and growing consensus that government policy should promote rather than discourage healthy marriage.'; http://www.heritage.org/Research/Welfare鈥?/a>
Recently, voters the Commonwealth of Virginia voted to restrict the rights of same-sex couples. Less than one week later, out comes a story of a phony marriage scandal in which immigrants whose visas were about to expire would marry citizens long enough to get their green card or residency and then divorce. The citizen would get paid to take part in a sham marriage. It was easy in Virginia because there are no waiting periods (and, I later found out, no residency requirement either)
I'm sure there are other places in the country where sham marriages go on because it's easy to get married and not too hard to get divorced either.
Or how about Twitney Spears' 55-hour spur-of-the-moment marriage to a friend?
There are far greater threats to the sanctity of marriage than allowing two men or two women to set up housekeeping and file a joint tax return.
';One of the biggest problems facing America is the growing number of people getting pregnant out of wedlock.';
this is one of Americas biggest problems how exactly?? I feel like if the middle class wasn't dissapearing longer work weeks etc that this growing number would be a decreasing number.
to your question... you're absolutely correct however we've got a big christian population in the US which are easy votes to get as long as you don't upset their views. Do you honestly believe these people are religious men? Look at some of the things they've been convicted of recently. A senator just resigned because he tried to solicit sex from a male undercover police officer in an airport bathroom. Yet I guarantee he stated he believed in these ideals as well.
Let me repeat that in case you weren't listening one of the top 1000 or so influencial men in the US was convicted of soliciting sex from a male undercover police officer in an airport bathroom, how sad.
';75% of welfare goes to single parents';
ok this is your argument why it's bad... to counter I say this the reason these people can't get married and raise a normal family is because of how poor they are not because they're born out of wedlock. ok say there single parents got married do you honestly believe that those two poor people will combine to produce a good environment, it's not the people it's the lack of money. Fix the economy, and society will fix itself, do you think these people wanted to become poor single parents? It happens due to economic and social pressures. Also look up children who grow up poor vs children w/out a father you'll find strangely similar statistics. Also look up statistics of wealthy single parents vs poor single parents I think you'll find that the single parent in the equation isn't the sole problem.
The word ';sacred'; should be the first thing you noticed. Then you should see the word ';marriage';. Words are important. You seem to be an intelligent, open minded individual. Why, then, have you not taken the time to study these two words? I am serious here, you say that you respect a persons religion, and that you understand (presumably the importance of religion to any given person). Sacred is a religious term to show the importance and power of certain acts, events, responsibilities or such. Marriage is a religious term for a union between a man and a woman. Only after being used by the general public for the longest of times were these word watered down to what most people think they mean today and therefor use them for when they discuss things. Take marriage for example, look it up in the dictionary and the definition of a union between a man and woman is but one, as it can be used in other situations to mean other things. Just because it has more than one meaning when used differently does not mean that it can be used in the same context to mean something entirely different. And seeing as how it is a religious meaning in this case, to use it in any other context is not only improper, but disrespectful. Perhaps people that have a different sexual preference should show some respect, and some intelligence, and find a word for thier unique unions. I am not trying to be funny, or hurtful, or snide or any of the like, I just find it ludicrous that a group of people that spends so much time and effort to be allowed to be different would insist on trying to be defined by the same words when so many words are available to them. It seems to me that the battle is to be accepted as equals, no more, no less. To insist on insulting a noble old custom is a sure fire way to distract from that battle and make enemies of potential friends. To do as you, and attack the integrity of a custom like marriage as a mean to make it more accessible to others is even more destructive. Your comments on divorce make no point other than what a spoiled child would make in excuse of bad behavior. Lastly, we live in the same world, not a new one. Yes, there will be change, but still the same old human beings on the same old world. Change, for the sake of change, is not progress.
The sanctity of marriage comes from the bible. (';Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.'; Genesis 2:22%26amp;24). Devout Christians/Catholics believe this to be the word of God and live their present day life and make choices in politics based on those beliefs.
Ask anyone from Massachusetts. Romney is a loser.
Men and women can get married because it's easier to run a business.
They don't have to live together, or have even met other than to sign a license.
It takes more preparation to buy a firearm then to get married and divorced.
Yet we want to deny people WHO ACTUALLY LOVE EACH OTHER the same rights.
It's ridiculous.
A new and modern world that is producing a bunch of Fvcked up kids. I believe in the sanctity of marriage and believe it should be a man and a woman. Allowing same sex will lead to people marrying their pets or god know what.
Marriage is between A Man and A Woman.......Period ! If you Bleeding Hearts don't like it, we have a nice plot of land for you to live on. Right in the Middle of the Arabian Desert ! Your Friendly Neighbors will be Hamas on your left and Al Qaida and Hezbollah on your right.
I love watching the conservatives lose. They will certainly lose on the gay marriage thing, just as they lost on interracial marriage in the '60's. The harder conservatives fight, the more fun it is to watch them lose.
It doesn't look like you have much respect for marriage so I say don't do it. And people DO make mistakes, thus divorce. I'm doubting that you are Ms. Perfect.
It is a farce how conservatives claim to support the Constitution. It is the Constitution that supports gay marriage. The same argument that gave African-Americans access to ';white'; schools also supports gay marriage. The Supreme court stated that ';equal but separate'; rights are not at all equal as required in the Constitution. The right to marry is being denied to some people %26amp; no ';civil union'; can change that.
Plus, several in here have mentioned how marriage is a religious act. It may have been hundreds of years ago but not today. Today, marriage is a legal act. If it was religious why is marriage controlled by laws? If it is a religious act, there would be no requirement for a license. If it is a religious act then the Consitution would require the government not interfere due to separation of church %26amp; state.
As for sanctity, come on now! Just look at the studies on how many people stray while married. Affairs are not just for libs either.
I find one of the weakest arguments against gay marriage is how it would weaken straight marriages. This is an argument that speaks so much about a person's inner self %26amp; how they view their own marriage. If your marriage is so weak that it is in peril for the guys down the street to marry then you have problems. If the only thing keeping your straight marriage together is a law banning gay people to marry then perhaps you should not have married in the first place. If you honestly believe that gay marriage will cause your child to become gay then you have no understanding of human nature and you must hold a deep inner fear that your parental abilities are inadequate to properly guide your child. This argument says so much about the person making this claim. Why do you fear your own ';straightness'; so much?
And, if marriage is so great, why would you want to exclude others? Why would you want to discriminate? If your own marriage is a wonderful bonding of souls, why do you want to restrict others from having a similar bond?
Whereas I do not agree marriage is a religious act, I do think most people allow their opinion to be heavily influenced by their religious beliefs. Well, how they want others to believe. How religious they want others to believe they are. They forget some commandments when they are inconvenient. They follow or espouse religion when they wish but do not live a religious life 24/7.
If you wish to truly sanctify marriage then begin with heterosexual marriages before you worry about homosexual marriages.
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